Considering quitting...at a loss! NEED HELP. :(

[TriDeltaSallie]

I'm sorry to hear things have been stressful. I am sure you will get some good feedback here, but it might not be until tomorrow since you posted later in the evening.

The national officer... You said you've approached her many times. Would you please explain that a bit more? Who is "we" and what kinds of things have you approached her about? Is "we" the Exec Board? A few officers? Who exactly? And what topics/problems have you attempted to bring up? How did she respond? Was she clueless? Hostile? Indifferent? Angry?

It is really unfortunate for your chapter that her involvement is undermining the chapter leadership. It would seem that she would know that she is there to support you as you learn the ropes and establish your chapter on campus. Undermining the chapter leadership isn't going to bode well for the future of the chapter.

Do you personally know the person that this national officer reports to? As in, have you personally interacted with her? I'm not saying to call her right this minute, but just trying to get a feel for your relationship with her. What about your local advisors? Do you have those yet?

Being a chapter president is one of the greatest experiences and one of the most difficult. I loved it and it also gave me a couple of my very lowest moments in college. Hang in there. You became chapter president for a reason. Keep trying to think win-win. How can you lead your chapter effectively and also deal with this person? If you truly feel that you've exhausted all your options and she is doing real harm to the chapter... Then you might have to make the decision to call someone higher up. But be sure to document what you have done so far. Make a list of the conversations you've tried to have with this woman, who else was a part of it, what the issue was, and what the outcome was. Paper trails are always a good thing.