My chances...and what would I call myself?

[ngsu]

I dont think anyone would recognize me and if they did, I'm not embarrassed. I had a really hard time and I've come out stronger by it, and I'm in a much better place.

I just am really confused though why people keep telling me to not compare other schools and how it's different in every situation...but how come then people can tell me my chances look bad and my GPA is too low and things like that?

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by ngsu

I dont think anyone would recognize me and if they did, I'm not embarrassed. I had a really hard time and I've come out stronger by it, and I'm in a much better place.

I just am really confused though why people keep telling me to not compare other schools and how it's different in every situation...but how come then people can tell me my chances look bad and my GPA is too low and things like that?

To the bold: You are being given a 'more than likely' answer.

Yes, every school is different and every situation is different, but since you've stated your specific school and situation, there are those who can give you a 'rough estimate' of your chances at your school with your situation.

The likelihood of a PNM with stellar grades, activities, recs, good conversation skills, and pleasant looks will have a better chance at at successful recruitment than a PNM who may be lacking in one or all of these.

Think of it like a sliding scale. For those with more 'pluses' will have a better chance at getting a bid than those who are more towards the negative end.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by ngsu

I dont think anyone would recognize me and if they did, I'm not embarrassed. I had a really hard time and I've come out stronger by it, and I'm in a much better place.

I just am really confused though why people keep telling me to not compare other schools and how it's different in every situation...but how come then people can tell me my chances look bad and my GPA is too low and things like that?

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

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Think of it like a sliding scale. For those with more 'pluses' will have a better chance at getting a bid than those who are more towards the negative end.

sigmadiva put it very well. I don't want to tell you that you won't get a bid. You very may will, but with your GPA and age, it may not be to the chapter you want. Recruitment is tough. When your résumé is not picture perfect, that sliding scale tends to leave you with choices you didn't think you'd have...but they are still choices. Some women in your position are completely released. We don't know you, so we can't tell you that wouldn't happen. It's unlikely since the vast majority of all women WITH AN OPEN MIND are placed during recruitment. The women who are closed minded drop out before the end of the process. That's their own decision. Go into recruitment with a completely open mind, and chances are you will end up with a bid...maybe not where you think, but a bid.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by ngsu

I just am really confused though why people keep telling me to not compare other schools and how it's different in every situation...but how come then people can tell me my chances look bad and my GPA is too low and things like that?

Because right now your GPA is really low for a successful recruitment. You keep basing better chances on some kind of mythical GPA you think you'll have by fall. You might not make those grades. Those better grade transcripts might not make it to the sororities or be counted in time for recruitment. Anyone writing a rec for you is writing it on actual facts not what you say your grades will be by recruitment, and your recs and probably your recruitment registration will need to be in before you achieve that target GPA. There are a lot of big variables

Most of all it's because you are asking things that are membership selection. How a chapter cuts off GPAs and what kinds of leeway they have and such is private information. People are trying to be gentle with you and let you know your odds may not be so awesome without talking about specifics. Because we can't and frankly we don't know for sure because we are not members of those chapters.