FSU Winterfest 2013 (informal recruitment)

[FSUZeta]

For a girl to receive a ZTA bid, she must have a recommendation. Your friends (especially if they joined this past fall) may not realize this. I am an alumna, and have been an advisor to several chapters(General Advisor, VPI advisor, Ritual advisor and numerous years as a Recruitment advisor) in various parts of the country and every girl who received a bid to ZTA had a recommendation-as others have said, it is a national requirement of ours. Additionally, as others have said, often PNMs do not realize that an alumna took the time to write a recommendation for them, and it may be an advisor in a back room doing it for a girl that has no rec. that the chapter is just in love with, but at FSU the majority of successful PNMs have recs.

Since you appear to feel comfortable with having no recs. for spring informal, I guess you did not have recs. for fall. Perhaps this is why fall recruitment did not work out the way you had hoped. I would think that someone who did not receive a bid would evaluate the plan she had for fall 2012 recruitment, and change those things that she has the power to change.

[soflogirl]

Like I said, I have never heard of any girl who is in a sorority having a rec. only until now did I know that maybe the girls that had them and didn't know. So it was my understanding that it was my grades that were the deciding factor. I am the first one in my family to go to college in America so I really had a limited understanding of how this all worked beyond the advice of my friends.

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by soflogirl

Like I said, I have never heard of any girl who is in a sorority having a rec. only until now did I know that maybe the girls that had them and didn't know. So it was my understanding that it was my grades that were the deciding factor. I am the first one in my family to go to college in America so I really had a limited understanding of how this all worked beyond the advice of my friends.

It's ok. Just do the very best you can to maximize your options. We are here to help, just don't pooh-pooh the advice.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by soflogirl

Like I said, I have never heard of any girl who is in a sorority having a rec. only until now did I know that maybe the girls that had them and didn't know. So it was my understanding that it was my grades that were the deciding factor. I am the first one in my family to go to college in America so I really had a limited understanding of how this all worked beyond the advice of my friends.

Your understanding from whom? A lot of times that's what members will tell girls when they are embarrassed that their friend didn't get a bid to their chapter for another more personal reason. Trying to find out why you didn't get a bid from a house, especially when you know many members, is VERY uncomfortable for those members. You will never know why houses dropped you and you need to increase your odds now by doing everything in your power because there probably won't be that many spaces available and it will be even more competitive than formal was.

Since you say you suicided, then you obviously made it to preference round with at least two chapters left. That doesn't sound like what happens to a grade risk. I think you will need to have the openest of minds and not think that a little bump in your GPA is going to make you a hot PNM.