UF recruitment fears

[gatorkelly]

I'm still not clear as to why deleting this post is in my best intrest. Like am I really not allowed to express concern over something that is a really big deal to me to the only place where I might get someone who can help me?

Everything I've said is only based in what I've been exposed to. I'm not trying to over generalize, but the only experience I have is from the girls I've seen on campus and the pictures on all the sororities' facebooks and websites, which has been intimidating. I just want some help, and no one has been remotely helpful on this thread so far.

[TriDeltaSallie]

You told us your height which is relatively unusual. You told us your GPA. This is spring rush with a limited number of chapters and women rushing.

The chapters will know who you are as soon as you walk in the door.

PLEASE do yourself a HUGE favor and delete all of your identifying information. And then kindly ask that those who quoted you delete it as well.

Seriously. We want you to succeed and you have already given yourself one strike in giving out this much info in a public forum.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by gatorkelly

I'm still not clear as to why deleting this post is in my best intrest. Like am I really not allowed to express concern over something that is a really big deal to me to the only place where I might get someone who can help me?

It isn't that people don't want to help you. People here are incredibly helpful. But we also know that advertising that you are struggling with self-esteem issues as it relates to going through recruitment isn't going to help you if the chapters see it. You will be known as the tall girl who was afraid to go through recruitment.

Although my situation was a bit different, I do understand to a certain extent what you are saying. It took me a year and a half to work up the courage to go through rush and it took some major hand-holding on the part of a co-worker. You can read my story in my signature.

But if you are bright, talkative, well-groomed, open-minded, and have a solid reputation, you should have a good shot at finding a sorority home. And any group that would hold your height against you isn't a group you would want to join anyways.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by gatorkelly

I'm still not clear as to why deleting this post is in my best intrest. Like am I really not allowed to express concern over something that is a really big deal to me to the only place where I might get someone who can help me?

Everything I've said is only based in what I've been exposed to. I'm not trying to over generalize, but the only experience I have is from the girls I've seen on campus and the pictures on all the sororities' facebooks and websites, which has been intimidating. I just want some help, and no one has been remotely helpful on this thread so far.

OK I'm going to spell it out to you.

Your user name probably contains your real name.

You told us your size, height and gpa, and if you are to be believed about the appearance of UF sorority members, you could be picked out of a crowd pretty easy especially in a smaller spring rush with lots fewer spots available.

You said some pretty generalized stereotypes about sororities at your school which looks a little negative. I could also start to think that you care too much about tiers and such because you sounded maybe too concerned about which houses are rushing and not keeping an open mind.

You talk about all the ways you think you won't fit in and it makes you sound like you have poor self esteem which isn't exactly something a sorority looks for in a PNM.

You got a little snippy when I tried to help and suggest a counselor to help you out beforehand. That makes you look like you might be unpleasant especially after the comment about how miserable you were first semester.

These things may not be true but this is on the internet and people making rush decisions may come to wrong conclusions.

We are only trying to help but you aren't exactly cooperating.