Ahhh freaking out, don't know if should drop or not

[adpiucf]

I think people confuse the meaning of the word sisterhood. I'm pretty sure you don't love everyone in your dorm or in your classes or in the other organizations you've joined on campus. A sorority is special because of its rituals and rich history, and its shared purpose. But your membership represents a cross-section of your college campus. You're not going to click with everyone. But everyone is working toward a shared goal of maintaining your chapter's rituals and legacy and supporting your philanthropy. I'm pretty sure in high school you didn't get along with every single person in the organizations you belonged to.

You may make some of your best friends in your sorority. Your sorority may lead you to meet your best friends who are outside the sorority. For me, both of these things are true. Another thing that is true is that no one, and I mean no one, is in love with her sorority 24/7. It can be enormously frustrating to work with so many women all at once, and some people have their ideas while you have yours concerning the way things should be done. But there are fun moments, and there are shared moments, and there are annoying moments, and there are sad moments. Later you look back on those times and you're so glad for all of those moments and those people and the lessons learned.

I don't like this whole concept of "finding your fit." We tell PNM's to find their fit during recruitment and then when they second guess themselves, we tell them they can find a way to make it work in any group of women if they just try. In recruitment, it's really a matter of falling into a group and making it work. If you don't want to make it work, drop out and save yourself the time and the money.

So here's my advice. If you are convinced you can walk into a sorority house and immediately "fall in love" with every woman of the room and be friends for life and BFFs, then drop out and try again. But in the real world, membership in a women's organization means you're not going to like or love most of the people all the time. It means you're going to have to keep putting yourself out there and cultivating friendships. If you're not up to that, don't be in a sorority or any women's-only group. Gone are the days when you could run up to a girl on the playground and say, "Want to be my best friend?" Adult friendships take time. And you will also need time to put that other sorority out of your mind. Stay busy and throw yourself into school, sorority, and other campus activities.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

I think people confuse the meaning of the word sisterhood. I'm pretty sure you don't love everyone in your dorm or in your classes or in the other organizations you've joined on campus. A sorority is special because of its rituals and rich history, and its shared purpose. But your membership represents a cross-section of your college campus. You're not going to click with everyone. But everyone is working toward a shared goal of maintaining your chapter's rituals and legacy and supporting your philanthropy. I'm pretty sure in high school you didn't get along with every single person in the organizations you belonged to.

I come from a fraternity perspective, but This! It is easy to see your friends and people you like as your brothers (or sisters). I have always thought one of the major life lessons of a fraternity is to learn to see and value as your brothers the people you don't particularly like or who you wouldn't necessarily hang out with. When you can do that, then you have learned what fraternity means.