Pie!Pie!Pie! MissCherryPie's Recruitment Story

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

My recruitment story has a perfectly happy ending.

I really, really (times that by infinity) wanted to go Greek. That's not going to happen at my school. But....I realized that ALL of the current Undergrads, Grad Students and Alumni/a of my school make up our own (Humongous) Fraternity. Complete with cherished traditions, rituals and history stretching back over a century.

But....I was thinking some more (as I always do) on how to offer closure to myself, under my own terms....and pulling some advice from my friends.

I'm definitely part of the XYZ Nation, as we call the students at our school.

So...even though I'm sure many may have an issue with this: I've chosen to select the Greek Letter Equivalent of my School's initials and. Sure...laugh....but it's something that means a lot to me. No matter where I go, no matter what I do....I'll always be forever a part of:

Upsilon Nu Rho

Which spells out my school: The Unversity of Nevada, Reno.

I'm not afraid to let everyone know where I attend school anymore. Since I'm not going to pursue recruitment at my school in the future....finding my own way and closure, on my own terms is what matters in this case to me.

If you want to know whether I'll wear letters....no, I'm not that meshuggah. But...this is the end of my story and I did end up Greek in the end. But....I do have plans for where I'll take this: and a paddle all my own to decorate. lol.

Thanks for following my recruitment story and offering such fantastic advice....I'll stick around on the boards, and keep on keeping on.

PS: Yes....I plan to pursue other clubs and orgs both on and off campus. They'll just be that much sweeter to me.

Let me first say that I love the idea that you are finding your place as a member/fan of your school, and that's wonderful. Not enough people have school spirit.

I also wanted to tell you that you don't have to slap Greek letters onto something to make it special. Not every organization needs "greek" recognition. If you're creating an interest group in hopes of bringing someone else to campus, that's one thing, but ascribing Greek letters to your college and making a paddle (which I presume you might hang on your wall in your dorm?) because you crave the appearance of a Greek title? You're bigger than that.

Please, allow yourself to grieve, and then move on. There are 200 clubs at your school. There are also community events, dozens of charitable organizations, and all sorts of routes to find friendship and camaraderie. Even if you were a new member of a sorority, it's still just as difficult and scary making friends. Bonds are made through shared experiences.

Who says that you can't talk to the person you met in line at the food court and plan a social activity? Create an event that would attract the type of people you want to get to know. It could be a charity event, it could be apple-picking, zip-lining or hiking, going to see a local band, whatever you want.

I know that it's not easy to "just move on," but you have so many options. Good luck!

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

It means something to me and with the letters excluded, it means something to more than 20,000 current students and untold thousands of alumni/a, and more than just greek latters and colors, and I'm sorry if you're offended.

You don't attend my school. Just like I don't belong to your GLO....you have absolutely NO idea what my school means to me and to other members of the Wolf Pack Nation. We live and bleed Silver and Blue and our traditions and rituals have meant more to me personally that I could ever speak of....I just don't have the words to describe being Wolf Pack for the rest of my life. I don't have any idea what being Kappa Alpha Theta means to you and your sisters, because I'm not Kappa Alpha Theta.

If you are offended because I placed Upsilon Nu Rho in my signature....then I'll consider deleting them as I don't wish to offend the fabulous ladies that I've met here on GC. The signature remains, whether it says UNR or Nevada. I consider myself part of the Fraternity that IS Nevada. That's something that will never change.

I deleted the letters from my signature, because it is apparent that they were offensive. I apologize for offending you and others, ThetaLady.

So, my story has a happy ending, as I realized that I found my Fraternity home....although it is not a GLO. Which, the more I think about it: whoever said "You'll end up where you're meant to." was right. I have found my home.

Sorry, I just saw this after posting my last message, but...gosh, I don't have words.

[misscherrypie]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Let me first say that I love the idea that you are finding your place as a member/fan of your school, and that's wonderful. Not enough people have school spirit.

I also wanted to tell you that you don't have to slap Greek letters onto something to make it special. Not every organization needs "greek" recognition. If you're creating an interest group in homes of bringing someone else to campus, that's one thing, but ascribing Greek letters to your college and making a paddle (which I presume you might hang on your wall in your dorm?) because you crave the appearance of a Greek title? You're bigger than that.

Please, allow yourself to grieve, and then move on. There are 200 clubs at your school. There are also community events, dozens of charitable organizations, and all sorts of routes to find friendship and camaraderie. Even if you were a new member of a sorority, it's still just as difficult and scary making friends. Bonds are made through shared experiences.

Who says that you can't talk to the person you met in line at the food court and plan a social activity? Create an event that would attract the type of people you want to get to know. It could be a charity event, it could be apple-picking, zip-lining or hiking, going to see a local band, whatever you want.

I know that it's not easy to "just move on," but you have so many options. Good luck!

I consider myself to be extremely blessed to attend the school that I do....there's lots to do here....and yeah....I've been grieving pretty much non-stop. It will end soon.

My new pal and I have spent a lot of time together over the last few days....doing stuff and studying. I did pick up some spools of ribbon in school colors and clips and fabric markers so I could make custom hair bows for us to wear in our hair and put our names and class year on the tails for the homecoming game next weekend.....start of a cute tradition.

I guess that I really, really craved ritual and traditions and being part of a greater part than just myself and lots of volunteer . I saw that as only being representative of GLO's...at least until I tried looking at things through a different light.

And who knows....I might end up being invited to join a community GLO somewhere down the road. This just isn't the time for that.

[misscherrypie]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Let me first say that I love the idea that you are finding your place as a member/fan of your school, and that's wonderful. Not enough people have school spirit.

I also wanted to tell you that you don't have to slap Greek letters onto something to make it special. Not every organization needs "greek" recognition. If you're creating an interest group in hopes of bringing someone else to campus, that's one thing, but ascribing Greek letters to your college and making a paddle (which I presume you might hang on your wall in your dorm?) because you crave the appearance of a Greek title? You're bigger than that.

Please, allow yourself to grieve, and then move on. There are 200 clubs at your school. There are also community events, dozens of charitable organizations, and all sorts of routes to find friendship and camaraderie. Even if you were a new member of a sorority, it's still just as difficult and scary making friends. Bonds are made through shared experiences.

Who says that you can't talk to the person you met in line at the food court and plan a social activity? Create an event that would attract the type of people you want to get to know. It could be a charity event, it could be apple-picking, zip-lining or hiking, going to see a local band, whatever you want.

I know that it's not easy to "just move on," but you have so many options. Good luck!



Sorry, I just saw this after posting my last message, but...gosh, I don't have words.

Did I offend you?

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

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Did I offend you?

Nope, but I find it ridiculous when people feel that they have to "translate" every dang organization into Greek letters.

Let's say that a bunch of moms get together and call themselves "Mu Omicron Mu". Does a mother-support group really need to have Greek Letters and call themselves a sorority?

That's all I am saying. It shows that you are trying to fit something else - in this case, being a student fan of your sports teams - into a Greek box. Doing this isn't moving forward. It's keeping you stuck in one place.

And I'm sorry, but a paddle with the Greek "translation" of your school's initials isn't going to be well-received by many people. Many sororities haven't used paddles in decades, so it's something that most people are not going to understand anyway.

I still wish you luck. I just think that you need to sit back and take things in, and enjoy experiences as they happen.

Have a good night.