How long did it take for you to get close to your brothers/sisters?

[33girl]

It took quite a bit of time. For me, especially, I was in a very rotten relationship and not balancing a boyfriend/friends well at all.

Everyone is different. Don't be upset if people seem like BFFs 5 minutes after bid day. Those often aren't the friendships in the chapter that last the longest.

ETA: if you are having problems that need serious, professional attention (like an eating disorder, cutting, drug or alcohol abuse etc) PLEASE see a professional. Your brothers/sisters can be great sources of support once you are on a plan and path to recovery, but they aren't trained to handle things like that.

[honeychile]

In my case, we had a rather unusual type of deferred rush. I was very comfortable with a few sisters by the time I pledged (please note the ancient words - our rush was six weeks long!). Sadly, there were a couple sisters with whom I was never close, but in a large chapter, it didn't really matter. I feel certain that, if I saw them today, I would do my best to "respect the pin" and try to get more comfortable with those few.