I'm a PNM who's kind of thinking of depledging...

[kokopelli]

While it's fantastic that so many of you are quick to devalue my entire faith life, where do I say I'm a "good" Christian? There ain't no such thing. I'm committed to my religion and the commitments I've made to it are by far the most important thing in my life. I wasn't sure if it would be possible to do both when they're both so emotionally involved and time committed - but really, no, thank you so much for all of your support based on a single anonymous post I made on the internet.
The "rumors" are things that I've been told by friends involved in Greek life who named specific women who were involved in nasty situations. A friend who is in another sorority at the same school and used to be active in my church told me that she didn't know if it would be the healthiest place for me to be. As someone who knows me and other Greek women very well (or at least better than me), it's hard not to weigh in her advice.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by kokopelli

While it's fantastic that so many of you are quick to devalue my entire faith life, where do I say I'm a "good" Christian? There ain't no such thing. I'm committed to my religion and the commitments I've made to it are by far the most important thing in my life. I wasn't sure if it would be possible to do both when they're both so emotionally involved and time committed - but really, no, thank you so much for all of your support based on a single anonymous post I made on the internet.
The "rumors" are things that I've been told by friends involved in Greek life who named specific women who were involved in nasty situations. A friend who is in another sorority at the same school and used to be active in my church told me that she didn't know if it would be the healthiest place for me to be. As someone who knows me and other Greek women very well (or at least better than me), it's hard not to weigh in her advice.

One, it's not about devaluing your religion...but sounding somewhat hypocritical.

Two, I get that you trust your friend, but shouldn't you be making decisions for yourself?

Three, because "specific women" are "involved in nasty situations", you are judging the whole house.

Quite honestly, I think at this point you should quit. You are basing your opinions of this house off of what a friend told you about a small handful of women and you are therefore transferring that rumor to the entire house. You are caught up in the fact that they are a smaller chapter and have struggled (number wise). To me that sounds like you are all about the "looks" of the sorority and not the actual sisterhood, which is pretty shallow. The house deserves a member who WANTS to be there and WANTS to help the chapter become successful.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by kokopelli

While it's fantastic that so many of you are quick to devalue my entire faith life, where do I say I'm a "good" Christian? There ain't no such thing. I'm committed to my religion and the commitments I've made to it are by far the most important thing in my life. I wasn't sure if it would be possible to do both when they're both so emotionally involved and time committed - but really, no, thank you so much for all of your support based on a single anonymous post I made on the internet.
The "rumors" are things that I've been told by friends involved in Greek life who named specific women who were involved in nasty situations. A friend who is in another sorority at the same school and used to be active in my church told me that she didn't know if it would be the healthiest place for me to be. As someone who knows me and other Greek women very well (or at least better than me), it's hard not to weigh in her advice.

So basically you're already gossiping about your new sisters to people outside your group. Nice. I'm going to go against the grain here and even my usual advice and say you should quit now. The last thing in the world a struggling chapter needs is a disloyal new member.