Bid Promising/Dirty Rushing?

[DubaiSis]

You've changed your story. In the OP, you said she was just average and now you're saying she has a dicey reputation. Slut is not average. Or druggy or whatever. If you are a sophomore yourself, you were not part of member selection and the discussion involved is not your business, even though you are a member now. Although it's not cool for your sister to be saying these things to a rushee, your choice is to either go to standards and narc on your sister, or keep your trap shut and use your voice and your vote however your MS works.
But what I'm feeling here is jealousy of this "just average" girl who is loved and adored by so many of your sisters. Maybe you felt like it was hard for you to get in your sorority and she's just skating right in. Of course, I could be completely off base here, but that was the first thing that popped into my mind.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by allthatglitters

So my school, like many others I'm sure has a strict policy against dirty rushing and bid promising. Unfortunately there is really no way to enforce that policy, which brings me to the story behind this post:

A girl in my pledge class met a girl through a mutual friend and immidiately told that girl "I want you to be my baby!" She has since brought that girl to every single social we've had and introduced this girl to everyone as her "future pledge daughter". The thing is, this girl is very very average, but she interviews SO well and because she's been at everything a lot of girls know her.

She went through recruitment as a freshman and got cut from our chapter, so she's going through now as a sophomore and has her sights set on our chapter and only our chapter and seems pretty confident because a) that girl has been telling her all year she's definitely in and b) she knows so many girls because she's always in our house hanging out and at socials. My thing is, if you were cut once, there was probably a reason, a solid reason, and I don't think its fair that she's essentially playing the system backwards and going though again to get in our house and isn't really caring about any other house. I talked to an older girl about it and she said to trust the system, so I am, but is that "dirty rushing" technically or am I just crazy?

Originally Posted by allthatglitters

Oh no, I wasn't planning on running to the front door of the Greek Life office to report her or anything. Its just a very awkward situation because the girl has called her her "baby" at parties/functions/etc. all year and people are associating her with our chapter which wouldn't be bad if this girl didn't also have a dicey reputation. I guess it'll just play out on its own.

Is she just average or has a dicey reputation? Make up your mind. You're sounding a little envious.

And if this isn't yet another argument against the use of that
"baby" junk.

[AUAZD2001]

And if this isn't yet another argument against the use of that
"baby" junk.

Yes! I can't stand all this "baby" business I've been seeing over the last few years! Ok, it's kinda cute for like 5 seconds, but really I think it's demeaning and I would have HATED to be called a "Baby Xi." IMHO (in a world where I am the queen and everybody has to do as I say) PMNs and active sisters would only be refered to as WOMEN, not girls, children, and the like. The VAST majority are 18 and adults when they attend college. But that's just my $.02.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

You've changed your story. In the OP, you said she was just average and now you're saying she has a dicey reputation. Slut is not average. Or druggy or whatever. If you are a sophomore yourself, you were not part of member selection and the discussion involved is not your business, even though you are a member now. Although it's not cool for your sister to be saying these things to a rushee, your choice is to either go to standards and narc on your sister, or keep your trap shut and use your voice and your vote however your MS works.
But what I'm feeling here is jealousy of this "just average" girl who is loved and adored by so many of your sisters. Maybe you felt like it was hard for you to get in your sorority and she's just skating right in. Of course, I could be completely off base here, but that was the first thing that popped into my mind.

Ditto. I smell a green eyed monster from post #1.

[allthatglitters]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

You've changed your story. In the OP, you said she was just average and now you're saying she has a dicey reputation. Slut is not average. Or druggy or whatever. If you are a sophomore yourself, you were not part of member selection and the discussion involved is not your business, even though you are a member now. Although it's not cool for your sister to be saying these things to a rushee, your choice is to either go to standards and narc on your sister, or keep your trap shut and use your voice and your vote however your MS works.
But what I'm feeling here is jealousy of this "just average" girl who is loved and adored by so many of your sisters. Maybe you felt like it was hard for you to get in your sorority and she's just skating right in. Of course, I could be completely off base here, but that was the first thing that popped into my mind.

I think she's fine. Not in love with her, don't hate her at all and have never had a problem with her. I know shes rubbed some girls the wrong way and thats where the dicey reputation comes into play. I haven't seen her out and about, but suddenly stories are emerging from all over the place about behavior in all kinds of social settings. If there is a green eyed monster lurking about, its not me. Really, I think she's fine. No qualms here besides the fact that my sister would tell her in public and at parties that she's *definitely* getting her in and talking about all their plans once she was in the chapter and how exciting it would be.

Which is awkward since the girl in question was recently cut..

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by allthatglitters

I think she's fine. Not in love with her, don't hate her at all and have never had a problem with her. I know shes rubbed some girls the wrong way and thats where the dicey reputation comes into play. I haven't seen her out and about, but suddenly stories are emerging from all over the place about behavior in all kinds of social settings. If there is a green eyed monster lurking about, its not me. Really, I think she's fine. No qualms here besides the fact that my sister would tell her in public and at parties that she's *definitely* getting her in and talking about all their plans once she was in the chapter and how exciting it would be.

Which is awkward since the girl in question was recently cut..

Don't worry about it so much. These things tend to work themselves out.