Advice for possible re-recruitment at FSU

[FSUZeta]

We aren't.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by alphatausc

Of course, I think the chapter and its members should do what they think is best. It is their chapter to lead. Just seems odd to me such an active alumna of the chapter has her daughter dropped. I just don't think we are getting the whole story.

Why do you assume that her mother is an alumna of that chapter? She said no such thing. Advisor to a chapter does not = chapter alumna (or alumna at all, for that matter).

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by alphatausc

I agree with your statement, just wonder why the chapter would drop a legacy if they didn't want to deal with her mom. I get that if she had been given a bid, her mom would undoubtedly been around. However now, the chapter has to deal with a pissed off alumna. Not only a pissed off one, but one that has, from what I can gather, been quite influential in the shaping of the chapter the past few years. A war between a chapter and an influential alumna is never good.

Of course, I think the chapter and its members should do what they think is best. It is their chapter to lead. Just seems odd to me such an active alumna of the chapter has her daughter dropped. I just don't think we are getting the whole story.

You're a boy. Sorority recruitment is completely different. You'll never understand it's nuances. Best to stay in your own lane.

[Kaieda]

Yes she is an alum to the chapter. And I wish I knew the whole story my self but I have a feeling my mom is keeping that from me. I do know that the current advisor and my mom did not get along because my mom always wanted the chapter to stay less superficial and well the current advisor wanted other qualities. Could that be the reason? Just because I'm short and a size 18?! Because if it is I'd feel terrible that I even went through rush.

[carnation]

weird language patterns plus increasingly odd story=fake poster

[Kaieda]

O.o I'm not a fake poster......

[justgo_withit]

Originally Posted by Kaieda

Could that be the reason? Just because I'm short and a size 18?! Because if it is I'd feel terrible that I even went through rush.

Could be. Could be that the fire sprinklers went off when they got to you so they assumed you were a bad omen. Could be that there was a freak gator attack and one of the sisters said it was your fault. Could be {insert any other ridiculous statement here}. The point is, membership selection information (like what kind of girls they're looking for) is confidential and different for every group at every school, so we honestly do not know and if we did we couldn't tell you anyway. No one here is going to go "they totally cut you because you're fat, those bitches! You deserve to be in that group!" the same way they're not going to say "Well my chapter wouldn't take you either, gross," because we just don't know and us guessing is pointless; learning to deal with uncertainty is part of growing up, regardless of how much it sucks.

[carnation]

I think it was the gator attack.

[Kaieda]

Thank you for the chuckles. I wish I knew why I was cut. It was very hard for me. Could the new way they did recruitment last year be an issue also? When my mom called the Greek Office to complain thay said that they were doing it a new way because they had so many transfers and that 50% of the chapters bids had to go to juniors and seniors. At least thats what my mom told me, she could have been trying to make me feel better.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by Kaieda

thay said that they were doing it a new way because they had so many transfers and that 50% of the chapters bids had to go to juniors and seniors. At least thats what my mom told me, she could have been trying to make me feel better.

LOLOL! 50% !

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by carnation

LOLOL! 50% !

I heard it was supposed to be 75% but there was a computer glitch.

Seriously though, if your mom was calling Greek Life to complain about the unfairness of the process, even if her assumptions were wrong, that tells a lot about what her relationship with the chapter might be like.

[Titchou]

Actually, they have an upperclass quota there that is independent of the freshman quota. So, that had nothing to do with it.

[Kaieda]

She called because she was very shocked I was cut after only the second round. I had a bunch of recommendations for other chapters on campus but for my moms specifically I had over 15 including one from a past president of the sorority. That's why it was so shocking. But on the other hand while rushing I did keep an open mind and I did like other houses but this one was...Home.

[carnation]

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Kaieda

Thank you for the chuckles. I wish I knew why I was cut. It was very hard for me. Could the new way they did recruitment last year be an issue also? When my mom called the Greek Office to complain thay said that they were doing it a new way because they had so many transfers and that 50% of the chapters bids had to go to juniors and seniors. At least thats what my mom told me, she could have been trying to make me feel better.

If your mom would think it's a good idea to make up such a ridic story, I am beginning to think I know why you got cut.

Just for the record, a chapter NEVER has to give bids to anyone from a certain class standing. There may be an upperclassmen quota, but the chapter is not obligated to use it. A chapter can take all freshmen, half freshmen and half sophomores, or they can decide they're going to take the set of triplets in the junior class and be done. A PANHELLENIC OR A SCHOOL CANNOT COMPEL A CHAPTER TO GIVE BIDS TO A CERTAIN GROUP OF PEOPLE OR A CERTAIN PERSON.