Mutual Selection in Formal Recruitment: Not So Mutual? For PNMs and Parents.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by kaeb

At USC, my impression of FR is that unless you're one of a few select "hot ticket" PNMs (in which case all the power is in your hands), the balance of power lies overwhelmingly with the sororities. Few women have a full schedule, much less one with all the houses they wanted, for every round of recruitment.

I think your perception is skewed since I highly doubt you've seen every PNMs invite list. This stuff functions like a bell curve. The chapters and PNMs both fall on that curve in relation to recruiting power. The chapters rarely get every PNM they want for every party, either. It's recruitment. You pick up and move on with what you have.

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I think your perception is skewed since I highly doubt you've seen every PNMs invite list. This stuff functions like a bell curve. The chapters and PNMs both fall on that curve in relation to recruiting power. The chapters rarely get every PNM they want for every party, either. It's recruitment. You pick up and move on with what you have.

This. a million times this.

And with a large recruitment, I would love to tell PNMs not to take the cuts personally (which I know is really hard - if not impossible - to do). But honestly, sometimes it is just a numbers game- we HAVE to get from 1600 women down to 50.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I think your perception is skewed since I highly doubt you've seen every PNMs invite list. This stuff functions like a bell curve. The chapters and PNMs both fall on that curve in relation to recruiting power. The chapters rarely get every PNM they want for every party, either. It's recruitment. You pick up and move on with what you have.

YES. The bell curve.

The issue? The average PNM perceives that she is in that top percentile end of the curve, when she's really very much in the bell.

If could tell any PNM any one thing (without them being offended) it would be that you are far less desirable than you think are. Sad but true.

This is not to say that no one is going to want you. But again, expectations v. reality.