High School Boyfriend and Sororities

[DrPhil]

Live your life and the rest will work out however it is meant to work out.

Hopefully, you have decades to be concerned with planning your life with (not "for" or "around") a man. This high school boyfriend may be that man but there is 98% chance that he will not be that man. Focus on school, sorority, and career and then you will eventually be equipped to focus on a family (beyond the family that you currently have).

That does not mean that you have to emotionally distance yourself or break up with him while he is still in high school. Simply do not let this relationship dictate your school and sorority plans. It will be supercute and LMN-worthy if (read: IF) he attends the same college next year, joins a fraternity, and you two are still together. One or all of those may not happen so keep doing what you have to do to never be one of those people who says "I wish I had...."

[33girl]

Your boyfriend is NOT allowed to come to mixers or any other function held with a specific fraternity. However, there should be no problem with him coming to a date party, semiformal or a formal.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Your boyfriend is NOT allowed to come to mixers or any other function held with a specific fraternity. However, there should be no problem with him coming to a date party, semiformal or a formal.

Could it be a problem if he is under 18?

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Could it be a problem if he is under 18?

It could. We have had this happen once where a venue for a date party had an over 18 restriction. It is not very common however, because often there will be a handful of 17 year-old new members.

I would think this would not be a problem for a sorority formal though.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by HQWest

It could. We have had this happen once where a venue for a date party had an over 18 restriction. It is not very common however, because often there will be a handful of 17 year-old new members.

I would think this would not be a problem for a sorority formal though.

That's what I figured (it's venue-specific). It crossed my mind that there could be insurance things, but I guess everyone has under-18 members, at least for a while.

[sigmagirl10]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

That's what I figured (it's venue-specific). It crossed my mind that there could be insurance things, but I guess everyone has under-18 members, at least for a while.

At my university there's some kind of thing you have to sign (I never did) if you are a 17-year-old freshman that is essentially giving the university some kind of parental rights. I'm not sure of the exact details of it but every under-18 freshman has to do it. Similarly our Panhellenic and IFC have documents for under-18 PNMs to have their parents sign giving them permission to participate in recruitment, and again when they accept a bid, parents have to sign.