Legacy, crazy grandmother, advice please!!!

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

I am not quite sure what you mean about your sister lying, but work with me a minute. On most campuses, a pnm may be able to attend up to 3 pref. parties. After the parties, she places the sororities in order as she would prefer to receive an invitation to join(bid). She will only receive one bid, so she will never know where she was on the other sororities bid lists. She will be somewhere on each groups(where she attended prefs.) bid list if they comply with NPC resolutions.If your sister attended prefs. at her sorority-let's call it "ABC", and at Tri Delta and maybe a third sorority, and she placed ABC first on her list and she was on their first bid list, or at least far enough on ABC's list before they reached quota to get a bid, that is how she wound up in ABC.

I believe she mant that her sister said she ranked:
1. ABC
2. DDD
3. EFG

However, she may have ranked:
1. DDD
2. ABC
3. EFH

and didn't get a bid from DDD. She was embarrassed because she didn't get crazy enthusiastic Grandma's sorority and lied about getting her first choice.

[BidMe]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

I believe she mant that her sister said she ranked:
1. ABC
2. DDD
3. EFG

However, she may have ranked:
1. DDD
2. ABC
3. EFH

and didn't get a bid from DDD. She was embarrassed because she didn't get crazy enthusiastic Grandma's sorority and lied about getting her first choice.

Yeah that is what I meant! Based on what I have read on this thread. DDD seems less enthusiastic about legacies than most sororities. But leading my sister on all the way to pref day and then not putting her on top of their bid list seems a little harsh (as a legacy). So maybe she was telling the truth.

[SWTXBelle]

I cannot speak for Delta Delta Delta, of course. HOWEVER - from my perspective I would hesitate to say that Tri Delta is less enthusiastic about their legacies than other sororities. Many sororities are dealing with the (wonderful) dilemma of having TONS of legacies going through recruitment. Back in the day you didn't have that many legacies, you had far fewer potential new members, and it was possible to bid every qualified legacy. I would be very surprised if my NPC cousins did not give legacies every consideration.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I cannot speak for Delta Delta Delta, of course. HOWEVER - from my perspective I would hesitate to say that Tri Delta is less enthusiastic about their legacies than other sororities. Many sororities are dealing with the (wonderful) dilemma of having TONS of legacies going through recruitment. Back in the day you didn't have that many legacies, you had far fewer potential new members, and it was possible to bid every qualified legacy. I would be very surprised if my NPC cousins did not give legacies every consideration.

Along this same line of thinking, has DDD never considered granddaughters to be legacies? I guess I assumed that granddaughters were considered legacies at all NPC sororities. Maybe they're so overwhelmed with daughters and sisters, they had to draw a line? Seriously. When I went through recruitment, the bid lists showed an asterisk by each new member who was a legacy to the chapter she joined. DDD was one of 3 sororities on campus that only had a handful of new members who were not legacies.

[BidMe]

I don't know if they never have. My mom just said they don't. I thought it was weird too because my sister's sorority considers great-granddaughters to be legacies. And some even consider Aunts. My sister was saying that her particular sorority has very strict rules about legacies and depending on the situation sometimes they are even forced (idk what she meant by this she tends to over exaggerate) to give some PNMs bids, if they meet grade requirements. She didn't tell me specifics as she wasn't allowed, so I don't know what the requirements are to be guaranteed a bid (maybe great-great-grandma was a founder or something). But anyways she stated that some chapters weren't like that at all and may not even give bids to the quintuple, 5th generation, in-house, legacy.