I don't care if I offend you, Greek & PNMs- Listen Up!

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by 33girl

What the fuck?

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by CloseMinded

P.S. I know I'm wordy. I also know most people who are going to comment on this will be more worried about my word count than my message.

That's because the word count (compounded by the lack of paragraphs) is making it harder to follow your message.

[AZTheta]

Two words: Gettysburg Address.

Or, as my favorite writing coach told me: "tidy it up!"

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by CloseMinded

I would love this to open up to a discussion, but the same women who are discouraging PNMs are making the chances of a true discussion impossible.

I don't know about everyone else, but I've found that if I'm truly wanting to have a discussion about something, it's counter productive to open with, "I don't care if I offend you - listen up!" That generally tends to make people a bit defensive.

Also, your username confuses me. Are you close to having a mind (but not there yet!), thus making you Close-Minded? Or did you mean to say you're ClosedMinded? I don't think I'd admit to being closed minded - it's not something to be proud of.

[DubaiSis]

I've said it before and undoubtedly will say it again, if it's YOU getting cut, it's COMPETITIVE. She went through an extremely competitive rush FOR HER. It didn't go well, and again if my guess was right, it wasn't resolved positively until a chapter colonized in her junior/senior year (VCU maybe?) and then she lived happily ever after.

But I think it's a vast presumption that the sororities, even at the super duper Greek schools cut all girls in the scenarios given. Sophomores and even junior girls DO get offered membership at those schools. They have to be the whole enchilada with extra sauce, but even if that girl did have a lousy first rush and she did accept the bid to "that house" which she eventually dropped out of, she could STILL get a bid next time. Even at super duper Greek school. It's just not common, and that's where we advise girls to not get their hearts too set. Yes it CAN happen, but you better be ready for some cuts because the IT chapter on campus will have 200 whole enchiladas with extra sauce to choose from.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

I don't know about everyone else, but I've found that if I'm truly wanting to have a discussion about something, it's counter productive to open with, "I don't care if I offend you - listen up!" That generally tends to make people a bit defensive.

I agree. I hate disclaimers in verbal and written communication. It sets the tone and shapes how people receive the message. Just say what you need to say and let others determine whether (insert common disclaimers).

I guess you all have decided this isn't a sockpuppet and the discussion is worth replying to. LOL.

[MaggieXi]

Membership selection is the private business of each organization.
Stop pushing your agenda.
The. End.

[PeppyGPhiB]

Darn. Too late for the chicken man.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

Or, as my favorite writing coach told me: "tidy it up!"

Or...."Kill your darlings."

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I guess you all have decided this isn't a sockpuppet and the discussion is worth replying to. LOL.

I thought it was a joke.

[wareagle93]

I don't know whether the OP is a troll or not. Here is my $.02 on the topic. I try to always be upbeat and positive when replying to PNM's who genuinely want information/advice on the whole Fraternity Recruitment thing. I post in the way I'd want to be responded to if I were a PNM seeking advice on this board. Obviously, I cannot speak for Sorority PNM's on this board, but I would hope other people would respond to PNM's in the way they'd like to be responded to if they were in their shoes.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by wareagle93

I don't know whether the OP is a troll or not. Here is my $.02 on the topic. I try to always be upbeat and positive when replying to PNM's who genuinely want information/advice on the whole Fraternity Recruitment thing. I post in the way I'd want to be responded to if I were a PNM seeking advice on this board. Obviously, I cannot speak for Sorority PNM's on this board, but I would hope other people would respond to PNM's in the way they'd like to be responded to if they were in their shoes.

Also, this is not really what the OP is talking about.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Also, this is not really what the OP is talking about.

Hey, I thought you didn't read!

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

Hey, I thought you didn't read!

I read some of the "LET ME SAY THIS AGAIN. I AM NOT BEING MEAN" QFPs.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Also, this is not really what the OP is talking about.

I read it as her referring to the designation women GLOs were given before the term sorority was created. I don't know the exact date, I think around the late 1800's / early 1900's, women GLOs were referred to as a fraternity, as in Kappa Alpha Theta Fraternity, Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity and Pi Beta Phi Fraternity. The term sorority was first used with Gamma Phi Beta.

Any NPC member please correct me if I am wrong.