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Originally Posted by DaffyKD
Sometime you just feel like your chapter is "stealing." Young Lady went through recruitment. Mom very active in her sorority. Mom works on the national level for her sorority. Older Sister currently active in same sorority as mom (same chapter mom joined). Young lady attends different school than Mom and Sister. Young Lady goes through recruitment. Young Lady prefs Mom/Older Sister's house along with a second house. Mom and Older Sister keep their mouths shut and let Young Lady make own decisions. Young Lady joins Other House. Other House feels like they stole a PNM since the odds were stacked against them going into recruitment.
DaffyKD
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But that's not really stealing. I mean, it's great that you got a member whose family is already highly involved and understands how recruitment works, it bodes well for a member who will continue to be a great lifelong member, but that's not stealing. It's letting recruitment work for the PNM, which I think is a great thing.
I'm talking about when women actively try to affect the outcome of a PNM's recruitment by talking smack on other groups, or by (in the case of Carnation's story) running up to a new member ON BID DAY and convincing her to switch. That's really deplorable.
I'm not a huge fan of filing recruitment infractions (because holy crap, it gets petty), but I think in cases of bid promising, catty behavior toward other groups displayed by members, etc., they are fully warranted because they DO affect the outcome of recruitment for a PNM, and often it's not just the "other" chapter that gets screwed, it ends up screwing either the PNM in question or another PNM.