How do I tell my mother I do not want to go through recruitment?

[OneHeartOneWay]

At this point, it probably doesn't matter anyway. You have given away enough information (current sister, familial ties, out of state, and class rank) that DDD at Alabama (or any of the other schools) will be able to figure out who you are. You've made it perfectly clear that you are incapable of making adult decisions and even more importantly, that you have NO DESIRE to join their group. In fact, you can't even articulate a reason why, you just know that you don't want to be one of them. So, if you want the easy answer, go through *rush* and let DDD drop you, then instead of disappointing your mom yourself, you can let her blame the sorority she so dearly loves and possibly taint her memories of something so beloved to her. Yep, that's definitely the way to go...