How do I tell my mother I do not want to go through recruitment?

[33girl]

Go to preview weekend. If you still aren't feeling it then, tell your mom, "Mom, I know this has been an awesome experience for you and sis, but I'm just not feeling it." However, do realize that if you don't rush this August, your chances at DDD or ANY sorority drop considerably. And therein lies the problem.

This is one of those times when I hate hate hate HATE pre-freshman rush more than usual. The OP didn't say this, but it kind of seems like she's afraid of just getting swallowed up into DDD or Greek life in general whether she wants that or not, without a chance to make choices that are truly her own. If she had a semester or a year to try out campus life as an independent, without feeling like that would scuttle her chances, it might help tremendously.

My understanding about recs in this type of situation was that they would kind of be like Christmas cards - women would write them up for her whether she rushed or not. I'm sure it's much easier to do them for someone you already know.