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[DeltaBetaBaby]

Is there a chapter advisor or someone like that from whom you could get the real scoop on probation and whatever else? If the advisor is trying to save the chapter, he's obviously biased himself, but maybe he could at least get you some facts.

Also, do you have an idea of how the situation is perceived on your campus? In most cases, spending an entire semester with a fraternity and then dropping could look bad when you rush elsewhere. However, if the chapter is really on its last legs, I think other chapters may be more understanding of your reasons for leaving.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Also, do you have an idea of how the situation is perceived on your campus? In most cases, spending an entire semester with a fraternity and then dropping could look bad when you rush elsewhere. However, if the chapter is really on its last legs, I think other chapters may be more understanding of your reasons for leaving.

This is SO important as far as any future Greekdom for you is concerned. If the majority of the campus is not going to give a shit if these guys fold, you're OK, but if they're popular in spite of being a bit of a clusterfuck, your social status might be zero.

There's a big difference between being friends with someone and being brothers with them. It sounds like you did make some friends, but have yet to meet a brother.

This fraternity sounds a lot like one I hung out with for a while in college. The guys who fit in there loved it and are all still really tight after decades, but the guys who wanted something more than sitting around smoking up and watching Monty Python, not so much, and they probably wonder what if.

Good luck - I think you'll make the right decision.

(Oh and by the way, I heartily approve of your username)