thinking of dropping..advice please!!

Psi U MC Vito · #1 12-31-2011, 02:15 AM

You have been in for only a few weeks. It's not going to be OMG BFF! It takes work like iwth any other relationships. Have you tried asking individual sisters to do stuff? You get in good with one person and then they include you in their group. And as for the talking trash, drama will happen with any group of people. And sadly, it seems pretty sisterly to me. As long as they aren't spreading it among outsiders, it is what it is, family drama.

jen72 · #2 12-31-2011, 02:20 AM

Yes, I've tried asking the girls to do stuff. I was hanging out with this one girl but now she's like always with another girl from our sorority and they leave me out..ive tried! and yeah thats true about the whole family drama but still it was my first week in the sorority and it just didn't make a very good first impression on me when the first thing they did was talk bad about another sister! Idk sometimes i just think i made a mistake and should have gone with another sorority. but thanks for your help so much! and anyone else with advice please feel free to tell me it haha! thanks <3

33girl · #3 12-31-2011, 03:13 AM

You're initiated. You cannot ever be in another sorority. Try to make this one work.

All sororities have internecine shit talking, fighting etc. It's normal. Going with another sorority would not eliminate this. I'm sorry your friend is having issues with sisters or they with her, but don't make her problems yours. You are not her guardian/keeper/mother.

If you walk about with a chip on your shoulder, it will show. Try going back next semester with a fresh outlook.

jen72 · #4 12-31-2011, 11:26 AM

umm i know I'm not her guardian or mother, and i deff wouldnt want to be. i also know i can't be in another sorority, i never said i wanted to go through rush again because i know its impossible. alllll i was saying is that it didn't put off a good first impression for the VERY first time i hungout with all of them, and it also put me in a awkward position because it was my friend they were talking about which add on to me feeling isolated. I understand that being in a sorority with a big group of girls that they are not going to get along 24/7 and thats normal, i don't care for every girl in my sorority but if i stick with my sorority i am sure as heck not going to talk badly of the other sisters in front of our very new little babies. thanks

33girl · #5 12-31-2011, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by jen72

umm i know I'm not her guardian or mother, and i deff wouldnt want to be. i also know i can't be in another sorority, i never said i wanted to go through rush again because i know its impossible. alllll i was saying is that it didn't put off a good first impression for the VERY first time i hungout with all of them, and it also put me in a awkward position because it was my friend they were talking about which add on to me feeling isolated. I understand that being in a sorority with a big group of girls that they are not going to get along 24/7 and thats normal, i don't care for every girl in my sorority but if i stick with my sorority i am sure as heck not going to talk badly of the other sisters in front of our very new little babies. thanks

I'm sure there are people who had a bad first impression of you who got over it. Try to do the same and quit dwelling on it. Do these sisters treat your friend badly to her face? There may also be things going on that you know nothing about.

I won't start on the babies thing, it takes different strokes to make the world.