Jewish wedding traditions adopted by non-Jewish couple

[aephi alum]

Yichud means seclusion. Immediately after the ceremony, the bride and groom leave the chuppah and go to a separate space where they spend the first moments of their married life together, without family and friends intruding. In the old days, the marriage would be consummated during this time. My husband and I spent our yichud saying to each other, "Holy shit, we're married?!" LOL

ETA: I think this is a great idea to incorporate into a wedding, no matter the couple's religion(s). It's nice not to be inundated by well-wishers and thrown into a receiving line when you've just exchanged vows seconds ago.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

Yichud means seclusion. Immediately after the ceremony, the bride and groom leave the chuppah and go to a separate space where they spend the first moments of their married life together, without family and friends intruding. In the old days, the marriage would be consummated during this time. My husband and I spent our yichud saying to each other, "Holy shit, we're married?!" LOL

ETA: I think this is a great idea to incorporate into a wedding, no matter the couple's religion(s). It's nice not to be inundated by well-wishers and thrown into a receiving line when you've just exchanged vows seconds ago.

I think this is a very nice idea as well and definitely has applications for more secular couples.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

Yichud means seclusion. Immediately after the ceremony, the bride and groom leave the chuppah and go to a separate space where they spend the first moments of their married life together, without family and friends intruding. In the old days, the marriage would be consummated during this time. My husband and I spent our yichud saying to each other, "Holy shit, we're married?!" LOL

ETA: I think this is a great idea to incorporate into a wedding, no matter the couple's religion(s). It's nice not to be inundated by well-wishers and thrown into a receiving line when you've just exchanged vows seconds ago.

I like this. In many situations, it's probably the only actual alone time you'll get for the entire day until the shindig is over.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I like this. In many situations, it's probably the only actual alone time you'll get for the entire day until the shindig is over.

Fewer than half of couples actually have sex on their wedding days. Most are too tired by the time they are done, and have done it before anyway, so they just go to sleep.

This isn't to say that most Jewish couples actually do it in the yichud room anymore, but as someone upthread said, just sitting and saying "holy sh*t, we're married" as just the two of you is important, too.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

This isn't to say that most Jewish couples actually do it in the yichud room anymore, but as someone upthread said, just sitting and saying "holy sh*t, we're married" as just the two of you is important, too.

This was more what I was referring to (because you never have time on your wedding day to say "oh hey, new husband, how's it going?") Seems like a good chance to just SIT and be by yourselves for a little but before the party gets going.

Not so much actually um, doing it.

Awkward moment.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

This was more what I was referring to (because you never have time on your wedding day to say "oh hey, new husband, how's it going?") Seems like a good chance to just SIT and be by yourselves for a little but before the party gets going.

Not so much actually um, doing it.

Awkward moment.

Can you imagine actually doing it and then having to get your wedding dress, hair, makeup etc. ready for the reception?

Also, that whole thing about everyone knowing that's what you're doing.