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11-12-2011, 05:11 PM
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It's also important to bear in mind that even when you are looking at a case where the student is of age, but still a student, it is still wrong. Not *as* wrong, but still wrong - the student/teacher relationship is a power thing, and no matter the age, the teacher is still committing a gross violation of their status as an authority figure.
When I was in high school, we had one of these situations come up with a female teacher and one of the guys who was in my class year. I don't know all the legal details, but they both left the school and their families (he left his parents & she left her husband and children). Last I heard, they're still together. To this day I find the whole thing incredibly disturbing.
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11-12-2011, 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by DSTRen13
It's also important to bear in mind that even when you are looking at a case where the student is of age, but still a student, it is still wrong. Not *as* wrong, but still wrong - the student/teacher relationship is a power thing, and no matter the age, the teacher is still committing a gross violation of their status as an authority figure.
When I was in high school, we had one of these situations come up with a female teacher and one of the guys who was in my class year. I don't know all the legal details, but they both left the school and their families (he left his parents & she left her husband and children). Last I heard, they're still together. To this day I find the whole thing incredibly disturbing.
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There is a difference between morally/ethically wrong and illegal though.
The article is clearly poorly written. A "minor" is different depending on whether you're talking about alcohol, tobacco/voting, or age of consent. It's an inconsistent term that should have been clarified. Someone can be a minor in relation to alcohol but legally of consent and able to get married.
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11-12-2011, 06:32 PM
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Sorry, it's probably just best to "agree to disagree" but the kids were being KIDS...which is where ADULTS need to be adults.
No matter how people phrase it, it sounds like the girl got raped after the party because she allowed herself to get drunk. A middle school kid curious about alcohol should not have to become a victim of sexual abuse to satisfy that curiosity. In a perfect world, middle school kids wouldn't be dreaming of such things. But in this world- Earth- kids can and do think about experimenting with alcohol. That's where ADULTS come in to point them in the right direction...to use it as a learning opportunity, not to say "Hey the state store is around the corner; I'm driving!"
I don't care if they asked the teacher for freaking heroin, the bottom line is, SHE was the teacher, SHE is an ADULT...and no matter what idea may pop into her head at that moment, SHE is responsible for controlling her actions and responses, PERIOD. And if she can't "handle" that...then don't BE a teacher.
I wonder what it was about that particular teacher that made kids think she'd buy alcohol? I mean, I'm not a teacher- yet- but I don't think being asked to buy beer is a common middle-school phenomenon. Lots of times these "predator-teachers" are the "fun" ones who use an easy sequey into the adult world, and adult things (like smoking, alcohol, sex, porn, etc) to get kids to show an interest in THEM.
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11-12-2011, 08:02 PM
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Originally Posted by AGDee
The article is clearly poorly written. A "minor" is different depending on whether you're talking about alcohol, tobacco/voting, or age of consent. It's an inconsistent term that should have been clarified. Someone can be a minor in relation to alcohol but legally of consent and able to get married.
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Beyond the fact that it is a poorly written article, the teacher is being accused of giving alcohol to minors--contributing to the delinquency of a minor--and statutory rape. Where is the confusion regarding whether or not the alleged victims are minors?
This discussion would have gone a lot different if this was a male teacher and female student; or male teacher and male student.
There probably would not be the following:
1.) Reminder of "innocent until proven guilty" (the title of this thread says "accused of...");
2.) Mention that the teenagers could be partly responsible since they requested alcohol;
3.) Mention of this potentially being one big misunderstanding; or
4.) Mention of people who have been wrongly accused in the past.
The fact that this thread has taken this turn is another gendered double standard. People are much more likely to consider alleged female offenders to be more along the lines of another victim than a perpetrator.
Last edited by DrPhil; 11-12-2011 at 08:21 PM.
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11-12-2011, 11:37 PM
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Beyond the fact that it is a poorly written article, the teacher is being accused of giving alcohol to minors--contributing to the delinquency of a minor--and statutory rape. Where is the confusion regarding whether or not the alleged victims are minors?
This discussion would have gone a lot different if this was a male teacher and female student; or male teacher and male student.
There probably would not be the following:
1.) Reminder of "innocent until proven guilty" (the title of this thread says "accused of...");
2.) Mention that the teenagers could be partly responsible since they requested alcohol;
3.) Mention of this potentially being one big misunderstanding; or
4.) Mention of people who have been wrongly accused in the past.
The fact that this thread has taken this turn is another gendered double standard. People are much more likely to consider alleged female offenders to be more along the lines of another victim than a perpetrator.
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The confusion is in the article itself where it said "depending on age". I'm just chalking it up to a poorly written article. I didn't know that 18 was the age of consent in TN when I said that. Most states have a lower age of consent so I was thinking that was some of the confusion.
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11-12-2011, 11:46 PM
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Originally Posted by AGDee
The confusion is in the article itself where it said "depending on age". I'm just chalking it up to a poorly written article. I didn't know that 18 was the age of consent in TN when I said that. Most states have a lower age of consent so I was thinking that was some of the confusion.
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For some reason, this quote is the highlight of this thread:
"Covington residents say if the allegations are true, the minors hold some responsibility, depending on their age."
It seems as though the Covington residents are saying that the older minors should know better (similar to what crosscaravan is saying about asking for alcohol). The residents' opinions do not mean that these minors are not minors.
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