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Originally Posted by amIblue?
I was in an abusive relationship in my 20's, which I finally was able to end after seven years. Should I have gotten out sooner, absolutely, but I had to do a lot of reprogramming of my psyche in order to get to the point where I could do so. I was also someone who had said previously things along the lines of "I'm out of there if that ever happens even once." For me, it didn't start out at the extreme. It was losing a temper, having awful things said to me (who hasn't done that), and then an apology, which ratcheted up in intensity every time.
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I experienced a relationship like this as well a few years ago, it took me over two years to get out. It started with an insult. It evolved. In my experience, it creeps up on you.
Also, my ex managed to make me feel very lonely. This feeling of alienation is something I've heard a lot of people who experienced this mention. It is really hard to tell people close to you about this. I think most people know someone who experienced domestic abuse, but it's just not talked about.
For men, I can only imagine how much harder it must be to talk about because men are stereotyped to be strong, in charge, and since being abused is often confused with being weak, they must have a way harder time talking about it and acknowledging that they are being abused.