Alum visiting colleges with daughter Qestion

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by pinkturtles

Thank you for your advice. I wasn't taking my daughter to get a "leg up" but rather for my enjoyment of seeing the DZ house as a proud alum and for my daughter to experience a sorority house for the first time with me. We unfortunately have never been able to visit my school and sorority house for alumnae events.

As I stated in an earlier post, I know it's a slim chance that she would join my sorority..... Even in my day, legacies were cut. Of course we had to have a VERY good reason to do so. I remember all us girls heartbroken when we had to cut a legacy because she just wasn't a good fit. I wouldn't want my daughter to be in a sorority that wasn't a good fit for her just because it was my sorority.

From what I've heard, being a legacy may not even get you an invite back for the second round. In some ways it's better. Who wants to get in a sorority just because their mother was. Some sororities might pass on a girl that's a great fit if she's a legacy to a different sorority. Visiting has nothing to do with having the members look out for my kid and to give her high priority. Some of us are very proud of our chapter and just want to visit for the sake of visiting.

With all that said, I didn't realize my simple question would have such a harsh response. I thought your first response was a little curt, but wow you really slammed it with the second one. As a moderator, you should be a little careful with the tone of your responses. As a mother, I worry how your harsh responses could affect a young girl if you answer their questions in the same manner.

What in the free world?

If you'd be so kind as to go back and read, I STARTED my response by saying "NOT that this is what YOU are thinking, but just a GENERAL comment" about visits."

It wasn't my intent to say that that's what you're doing. Which is why I started my post with that...

It was more of a general comment because yes, there are parents who will take a daughter on a visit thinking those things and I like for people to know (not YOU, but others) that that's not how it works.

BTW, I'm probably the least offensive human being on this site. If you think I'm offensive, you should stick around.