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Alum visiting colleges with daughter Qestion
Hi, I'm taking my daughter to visit her top three colleges one last time before she makes her final decision on which school to attend. I'd like to visit the houses of the sorority I was in. It's been so long since I was a sorority girl and I'm worried it may be frowned upon these days. When I was in school we had alum drop by all the time. What is everyones thoughts? We are visiting University of Alabama, University of Florida and Ole Miss. Ole Miss doesn't have a chapter so it's not even an option. Thanks for your help.
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Definitely drop in! I'd love to visit my old sorority suite every time I get back to Pitt but unfortunately (or fortunately, if you're looking at it from the inhabitants' viewpoint) the security at the dorms rivals Fort Knox and I don't usually know any sister in particular I can call to "buzz me in".
But since UA and UF have houses, I say stop in and say hey. |
definitely drop by. if you can get the email address of the chapter president and drop her a line ahead of time, that might let the chapter know that an alumna will be coming by on ____date.
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My only concern with this is just making sure it's okay with the chapter ahead of time.
And please note that "ahead of time" is not like the DAY before you will be in town. As soon as you know the dates you will be in town, contact the president of the chapter to see if that would be a good weekend. Collegian's calendars are jam packed with stuff and you don't want to just "drop by" on say, Derby Day weekend. I've heard it happen where an alumna just kind of shows up (or gives like one day notice) and "drops by" on a busy weekend (ex: Greek Week weekend or Songfest weekend) the complains later that the women were "rude" or "they didn't talk to me" or were "disrespectful." Well, you just kind of showed up at their home during the middle of a busy day. They can't suspend life to give you/your kid a tour/serve sandwiches to you/etc. So all of that to say, remember that you are not only visiting your sorority chapter house, but the collegian's HOME as well. So just be mindful of that and give proper advance notice, as you would if you were planning to visit any other person's home. |
Thank you so much! I will definately contact the chapter president before we visit. I'm so excited to show her my sorority. I know the odds are slim that she will join my sorority, but a mother can only hope.
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I will start visiting chapters with my daughter this spring. Only 1 of the 3 she is interested in has my chapter (one will recolonize the year she would be a freshman). At the one campus, we will be heading down to homecoming and taking tours of several houses with alumni we know. I would just make sure you contact the Chapter Advisor prior to heading out and find out who she be your contact at the Chapter. I think it is a really good idea.
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Another concern: not all chapters may have "open visitation policies" for non-public areas of the facility. As you are an alumna, that might not matter, but for your daughter, I wouldn't expect a full house tour if the chapter's visitation policy doesn't permit non-members in the non-public areas of the facility (regardless of sex!).
That said, we love to have alumnae visit! |
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I took my daughter to visit one of our houses. I e-mailed the president and gave her the date and approximate time of the visit. She made sure someone met me and gave us a tour...even treated us to lunch at the house!
Just make sure you have a phone number. Most houses are locked 24/7 and someone has to let you in unless you have a code. Enjoy! They're gone so soon... |
Another thing (not saying this is what you think, but more as a general point):
Don't think that your visit = the members are going to "look out" for my kid during fall recruitment and give her high priority. The schools you're listing are pretty legacy-heavy. Even moreso depending on the sorority you're a member of (certain chapters see more legacies in recruitment than others just by nature of the region.) Chances are good that many other alumnae are planning the same types of visits with their kids as well. Chapters will see many more legacies at times than they have room for, making it impossible for them to "look out for" every single PNM whose mom made a visit, came by for Homecoming, is a member of the alumnae chapter and comes by every Founder's Day with her daughter since she was born 18 years ago, you get the idea. Enjoy the visit of course for what it is (meeting collegians and showing your kid around college, etc.) but I just wanted to throw that out there. I would hate for an alumna to have it in her mind that such a visit automatically = a "leg up" for her daughter in recruitment. |
Ok so follow their advice on this board since these are the experts but if it's DZ at UF, my daughter is now a DZ,loves it, and I could also ask her what the policy is. And I'm only guessing it might possibly be DZ since your name is pink turtles - LOL! They just had family weekend recently. The house and girls were amazing!
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BTW, Alabama has a spring PH Preview Day. If she decides on Alabama, it's almost imperative that she attend that event. And all these schools are on the MUST HAVE rec list as well
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My last post was meant for KSUViolet. New to this. Everyone else, thank for the kind answers. I even had a very nice private message from someone. Advice is welcome but politeness is always a must when giving it.
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Her response was hardly harsh - she was simply speaking in a straightforward manner so you didn't get any wrong impressions. Here on GC, we have MANY MANY MANY mothers of prospective sorority members who think that legacy status is enough to secure a bid - never mind that they've been completely out of touch with their sorority since graduation day and have no idea how recruitment, pledging and most especially the role of legacies in sororities have changed. They don't bother to help their daughters do the homework that's necessary to get ANY bid at a competitive campus and then come on here yelling that XYZ has completely forgotten its alumnae and what sisterhood means and that they'll never donate again (even if they never donated once to begin with). If this isn't you don't take offense. If it is you, well...yeah. |
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