Ordering high end on the first date. Is it rude or is it just me?

[amIblue?]

I think it's inconsiderate of the person not paying (whether it be a female or male) to go nuts with ordering the most expensive items on the menu. I'm married now, but when I was dating, I would usually ask my date what he was ordering, find the price, and then order something around the same price range.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by amIblue?

I think it's inconsiderate of the person not paying (whether it be a female or male) to go nuts with ordering the most expensive items on the menu. I'm married now, but when I was dating, I would usually ask my date what he was ordering, find the price, and then order something around the same price range.

I used to do the same thing when I dated, looooooong, loooooong ago and i made sure that our children understood that they should ask their host "what looks good to him/her" if someone was treating them to a meal out. As for those who don't do this, I think the best suggestion was the majority consensus, that a host take a guest to a place well within the host's price range.

Dr. Phil, what great advice to KillarnyRose. Sometimes I know that I don't stop to think that the person treating me is getting pleasure from doing so, and I should just "go with the flow." Thanks for the reminder!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Cen1aur 1963

I did tell her to order whatever it is she wants off the menu, .

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Why did you tell her that? I mean, why was that even necessary?

Originally Posted by TonyB06

What precipitated you saying "order whatever you want?" Had she asked your opinion on any of the menu items? Had she asked if you'd dined there before?

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Originally Posted by TonyB06

Her menu selection is one of the many unstated markers that you pay attention to, particuarly on a first date. People will usually, through their actions, show you far more than they will tell you.

This! FTW!

Originally Posted by TonyB06

Even saying "order whatever you want" should not have been taken as an invite for her to go buckwild on the menu.

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