Ordering high end on the first date. Is it rude or is it just me?

[thetalady]

If she orders the most expensive thing on the menu on the first date, I think you should be grateful!!

At least you know early on that she is a diva that will expect to be be wined & dined and probably end up being way high maintenance. In the end, it will be a cheap lesson!

[KillarneyRose]

Originally Posted by thetalady

If she orders the most expensive thing on the menu on the first date, I think you should be grateful!!

At least you know early on that she is a diva that will expect to be be wined & dined and probably end up being way high maintenance. In the end, it will be a cheap lesson!

Excellent point, thetalady!

Personally, (and it has been quite some time since I've been on a first date), I would tend to stay in the middle of the menu, pricewise. For example, if they had a stirfry with chicken, beef or shrimp I would order the chicken because it doesn't cost as much as the shrimp. I might order a glass of wine but not the ultra jumbo frozen margarita and I would probably skip dessert. I just wouldn't want my date to think the only reason I was going out with him was to score a free meal (unless, of course, I was only going out with him to score a free meal).

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

If you don't want to spend that much money, don't go to a "high end" restaurant.

Originally Posted by amIblue?

I think it's inconsiderate of the person not paying (whether it be a female or male) to go nuts with ordering the most expensive items on the menu.

I believe both of these statements are true. I will order in the low-medium price range, not because I don't think my date could afford it but because I'm not into taking advantage. In any case, I don't think I've ever ordered alcoholic drinks on a date (for several reasons).

[BetteDavisEyes]

I have a reverse story of this. My cousin and her hubby are VERY well off. They invited my hubby & I to dinner at a very pricey restaurant in L.A. Her hubby was surprised when we ordered mid-range meals and no alcohol. He couldn't believe that neither of us were interested in the pricey seafood and steak options (I wanted pasta & my hubby wanted chicken) and I hardly drink and my hubby never drinks.
My cousin later told me it's b/c he's used to people ordering drinks like crazy and the most expensive items when it's on their tab b/c they're well off. Lol!