Help! I Keep Getting Contradicting Information at my School

[33girl]

Originally Posted by colors

thank you again!!

also does it say anywhere in the MRABA specifically that signing a pref card (not a bid) would make someone inelligible for informal/COB?

Signing a pref card is the same (as far as binding-wise) as signing a bid. The only time you would ever be presented with an actual bid from the sorority to sign is during informal or COB.

However, if you aren't matched to any of the sororities you write on the pref card, you are free and clear.

Have you heard of anyone else at your school having these issues or being surprised with what they got (sororities or rushees)? I'm not doubting you in the least, I'm just curious if they don't know what to do for you because your situation is highly irregular, or if it's the Wild Wild West there and they do whatever they feel like doing.

[colors]

Hahaha. Thank you! my school is very large and has been doing formal recruitment for a while, so I really dont know why so many things are up in the air.

They really do not explain the process well at all, and is was a bit unorganized. A lot was glossed over... I had never even heard of recs before I came to this site! (Maybe if I knew these things beforehand I may have gotten a different outcome)


I'm just frusturated because I wanted to do informal rush, but because of this mistake was left out, and now apparently the quotas are all filled. (again, I asked for the quota's be wan't really given detailed information).

Originally Posted by 33girl

Signing a pref card is the same (as far as binding-wise) as signing a bid. The only time you would ever be presented with an actual bid from the sorority to sign is during informal or COB.

However, if you aren't matched to any of the sororities you write on the pref card, you are free and clear.

Have you heard of anyone else at your school having these issues or being surprised with what they got (sororities or rushees)? I'm not doubting you in the least, I'm just curious if they don't know what to do for you because your situation is highly irregular, or if it's the Wild Wild West there and they do whatever they feel like doing.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by colors

I know a lot of rushees getting really positive feedback from houses, then not being invited back, but that happens everywhere, right? A few girls dissapeared during rush who I believe were cut and did not choose to drop. I know there is also one house which many people who rank them 3rd get bids from. A friend I rushed with said that a good number (10-15) literally walked out immediatly after opening their bid cards.

While your school may not particularly well-informed, the things you're describing here are not the fault of the system.

It does happen that you think you hit it off with a chapter and get cut. That's not unique to your school. Chapters make their own decisions.

Also, as far as getting bids to your 3rd choice, that can happen anywhere too. I think the issue is that some schools don't spend enough time telling PNMs EXACTLY what it means to sign that final card.

Anytime you pref 3 chapters and list them all on that final card, you're saying that you are willing to accept a bid from any of those 3. . I think schools tend to gloss over this part and kind of say "you have to put all 3 down, but don't worry, no one ever gets their 3rd choice." That's just not true. You could receive a bid from ANY one of them. Even your 3rd.

Also, I think that is why a lot of schools are switching to 2 party prefs (instead of 3) because they find that (in general) PNMs feel okay with getting a bid from their second choice. More often than not, they really aren't interested in that 3rd choice (and wouldn't take a bid from them), but put it down because a Rho Chi says they "have to or they won't get a bid." Also false.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Also, I think that is why a lot of schools are switching to 2 party prefs (instead of 3) because they find that (in general) PNMs feel okay with getting a bid from their second choice. More often than not, they really aren't interested in that 3rd choice (and wouldn't take a bid from them), but put it down because a Rho Chi says they "have to or they won't get a bid." Also false.

I don't see how it would make a difference if there's a chapter that sticks out as the one that no one wants to join. Plenty of women are still going to be "stuck" going to "Icky Iota" for pref because of the way RFM works. Women who might have been invited to Okay Omicron, Less Popular Lambda and Icky Iota in a 3 party format might find themselves cut from Okay Omicron and therefore forced to go to Icky Iota, though they would have wanted to pref at Okay Omicron and Less Popular Lambda in a 2 party format.

You could argue that a woman who would make the cut in a 3 party format but not a 2 party format for a chapter probably wouldn't get a bid anyway, but a chapter can arrange the bid list however they want. She could wow a chapter at pref and move to the first list.