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Originally Posted by 33girl
It's been a WEEK. You're not going to be BFFs with everyone immediately just because they gave you a bid. Give it a little more time, with a truly open mind, and if you still don't feel comfortable, drop out before initiation.
There's also the chance that the colony may not charter (they're not really making friends poaching other groups' pledges, IMO) and then you'd be doubly shit outta luck. You'd be "that hoser who dumped XYZ to pledge those lameasses that tried to charter ABC."
Stay put.
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Thanks for the response,
I realize it's only been a week, but surprisingly it was one of the guys in the fraternity that I'm in now who told me "the house that you go to and feel comfortable in within the first 10 minutes of rush is the one you're probably best suited in." I felt totally comfortable when I rushed at the colony, and ironically I felt really out of place in the fraternity I'm in now. Also, the colony I'm thinking about joining is supposed to be getting their charter this spring. I'm not sure what you mean by 'they're not really making friends poaching other groups' pledges.' They had plenty of people rush there and accept their bid, and they've grown a lot in numbers in the fairly short time that they've been around. As a matter of fact I'm pretty sure they have more members than the fraternity that I'm currently in (I realize quantity isn't everything, but I thought it was worth noting).
Also, I'm not expecting to be anyone's "BFF" after a week, but the people that are in the fraternity aren't people I could ever see myself hanging out with. I WANT to put myself out there more and get closer with them, but at the same time it's like I can't because I just have nothing in common with anyone. I honestly have no idea how I even got a bid there. In the end, I just don't feel comfortable around the guys and I can't really picture myself calling them my brothers.
One last note; I was thinking about sticking out until initiation to decide, but we have to pay a portion of our dues fairly soon and I doubt I'll get that money back if I decide not to go through with it. The first payment is around $200.00, and that's basically all of the money I have now to last me the month. Also, if I do go through with moving over to the colony, I'd really like to be a part of the current pledge class; both the fraternity I'm in now and the colony have 8 week long pledge periods (I'm assuming that's standard among other fraternities as well?) and if I waited the 8 weeks I wouldn't be a part of the current pledge class.
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