What did I do wrong?

[WhiteDaisy128]

Originally Posted by LuvleeGrrl

Here is my rush story...

I go to kind of small college (around 6000 students), so there are only 2 active sororities on campus. I know hardly anyone here and have been really craving interaction so I thought rushing would be nice. My mom wholeheartedly agreed and said I would have no trouble getting in to one. (I was super active in high school, have an excellent GPA, and am averagely pretty). I pay my recruitment fee, go to the first day of rush, meet up with the girls from the two sororities, and had a fun time. Seriously, I got along great (or so I thought) with the girls from both groups. We mingled and joked and found common interests and all that jazz. Second day of recruitment comes up (business casual wear). I wear my most expensive outfit which is a pencil skirt, a blouse, and uncomfortable shoes. I spent hours on my hair trying to make sure it was perfect. I re-did my eye makeup twice so I could get the right blend. I get there to check out my schedule ...and one of the sororities has already cut me..."what the heck?" I was thinking. I listen to the other recruits talking and almost all of them have been invited back by both. So, I am a little upset but just think to myself "Ok the sorority that invited me back is pretty awesome. I like them. Maybe they will take me in." I go to their event and have even better conversation!..The sorority girls and I shared funny high school stories and I told them about myself. I seemed to have a bunch load of stuff in common with some of the girls. The chemistry was great (or so I thought), and I had a really fun time. Third and final day of recruitment comes up (day before bid day). I go all morning without "the call" so I start planning how I should do my hair and what shoes I should wear with my dress. I have class mid morning so I'm in my Chem lecture and I get the call..."I'm sorry but you have failed to receive an invitation..You have other options yada yada I know this hurts blah blah" I go back to my room, turn on loud music, and cry for 2 hours. I tried to do everything right. I know that I have always seemed to have trouble making friends because I can be a little shy, but now I'm just convinced I emit some kind of "anti" hormone that makes people dislike me. I know I can go to open bid, but now I have missed out on the experience of getting to go to bid day and going to the new sister bonding event. My whole life I have felt like no matter what I do, I miss out on the stuff every one else gets to enjoy (whole other sad sop story)...and I'm just wondering..What did I do wrong?

None of us can tell you what you "did wrong" - we were not there and membership selection is confidential. Keep your head up and look to get involved in other clubs/groups on campus. Maybe one of the groups will be participating in COB and have a chance to get to know you better that way.