being friends with a guy help?

[greekdee]

Soontobegreek12...Futuregreek12...whoever you are today...I have been seeing your posts for a few weeks now and have to ask if you're for real or are you a troll? For the moment, I am going to assume that you are genuinely seeking answers and offer some motherly advice: calm down, son. Whether you realize it or not, you are presenting here as being really desperate, insecure and obsessive. This is not the way you want to come off during recruitment. Breathe. You seem so worried about the outcome of recruitment that you're going to sabotage the process for yourself by looking like the emotional basket case with ants in his pants. Again, breathe. Determine what you are seeking from fraternity life and what you have to contribute to a GLO. Meet the men (not "kids" as you've frequently referred to fraternity members in other posts), learn about their brotherhood and see if you and they seem like a good fit.

To answer your question, being friends with a fraternity member can help tremendously -- or not at all. There are various factors at play and no standard answer to your question. For me, your posts conjure up images of someone who is dizzy-eyed with panic and slinging the sweat of desperation. No fraternity is going to respond favorably to this, dear. You are also revealing too much about yourself and someone may be able to figure out who you are, which could hurt your recruitment. Stop it, okay? Just stop it.

Instead of dwelling on the questions you're bombing GC with, be thinking about intelligent questions to ask fraternity members-- ones that will give them the opportunity to tell you what their organization participates in and deems important. Be thinking about how you can contribute to a fraternity and be a solid member of the Greek community. Do not ask the men anything that pertains to membership selection or what your chances are for a bid. Go read Dale Carniege's "How to Win Friends and Influence People." I'm serious. There is a condensed version that is full of easy-to-apply communication skills. Trust me, mother knows best and you need to read this.

Good luck, Soontobefuturegreekwhoeveryouare12!!!