My brothers wedding

[agzg]

I feel like I need an update on this thread. Thanks, spammer, for bumping.

[groovypq]

Originally Posted by agzg

I feel like I need an update on this thread. Thanks, spammer, for bumping.

Word up. What happened, IL? (if it's not too painful to recount)

Also, in retrospect... I don't understand why brides get soooo caught up in a certain dress/color etc. and don't care how it will look on the bridesmaids or how they feel in it. I originally wanted either turquoise or purple for my maid/matron of honor. And believe it or not, even with only two girls it was HARD to find a dress that worked for both of them - they had two very different body types (i.e. one curved here and the other curved there).

I ended up with midnight blue dresses. They both loved them and honestly could even wear them again. And they looked fabulous!

Side note: One of my sisters got married last fall, and her bridesmaids wore turquoise. After seeing the pics, I'm glad I didn't go that route - floor-length shiny turquoise isn't flattering on anyone. Even on skinny girls, it just seemed like TOO MUCH.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by groovypq

Word up. What happened, IL? (if it's not too painful to recount)

Also, in retrospect... I don't understand why brides get soooo caught up in a certain dress/color etc. and don't care how it will look on the bridesmaids or how they feel in it. I originally wanted either turquoise or purple for my maid/matron of honor. And believe it or not, even with only two girls it was HARD to find a dress that worked for both of them - they had two very different body types (i.e. one curved here and the other curved there).

I ended up with midnight blue dresses. They both loved them and honestly could even wear them again. And they looked fabulous!

Side note: One of my sisters got married last fall, and her bridesmaids wore turquoise. After seeing the pics, I'm glad I didn't go that route - floor-length shiny turquoise isn't flattering on anyone. Even on skinny girls, it just seemed like TOO MUCH.

The last wedding I was in had turquoise dresses, but they were short and summery (and had pockets), so I could see myself wearing it to other summer weddings, I think, with a few modifications (I thought the fit was fine when I tried it on after it came in, I must have done something to my body between then and when I wore it because it was a bit awkward on the day of the wedding).

The wedding I'm in this year is going to have black, strapless, floor length dresses. I'm cool with it because it's her wedding and I've been in so many at this point that I'll wear whatever, but I've been through this before. The last black, strapless, floor length dress that I wore in a wedding (black so you can wear it again!!!eleven!!!) was worn exactly 0 times again before being donated to the Glass Slipper Project. Oh well - I try not to quibble about any of it because although I've been in a decent number of weddings, I've been so happy for the bride and love them so much that I'd literally wear a burlap sack that costs $500 if she asked me.

At least I get to wear awesome shoes again (which WILL be worn again). And so far, it's the only one planned for 2012 that I'll be involved in outside of attending - 2011 saw me performing MOH duties, daughter of the groom duties, and de facto daughter-in-law of the bride duties - so I'm looking forward to the break. And I've only attended one other wedding this year so far!

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by agzg

The last wedding I was in had turquoise dresses, but they were short and summery (and had pockets), so I could see myself wearing it to other summer weddings, I think, with a few modifications (I thought the fit was fine when I tried it on after it came in, I must have done something to my body between then and when I wore it because it was a bit awkward on the day of the wedding).

The wedding I'm in this year is going to have black, strapless, floor length dresses. I'm cool with it because it's her wedding and I've been in so many at this point that I'll wear whatever, but I've been through this before. The last black, strapless, floor length dress that I wore in a wedding (black so you can wear it again!!!eleven!!!) was worn exactly 0 times again before being donated to the Glass Slipper Project. Oh well - I try not to quibble about any of it because although I've been in a decent number of weddings, I've been so happy for the bride and love them so much that I'd literally wear a burlap sack that costs $500 if she asked me.

At least I get to wear awesome shoes again (which WILL be worn again). And so far, it's the only one planned for 2012 that I'll be involved in outside of attending - 2011 saw me performing MOH duties, daughter of the groom duties, and de facto daughter-in-law of the bride duties - so I'm looking forward to the break. And I've only attended one other wedding this year so far!

You could wear it at Feast of Roses at Convention.

[agzg]

Feast of Roses is that formal?!?!?!?! HOLY SHITBALLS, I NEED TO SHOP.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by agzg

Feast of Roses is that formal?!?!?!?! HOLY SHITBALLS, I NEED TO SHOP.

Some will be that formal. Some will be in cocktail dresses.

[Always AlphaGam]

Originally Posted by agzg

Feast of Roses is that formal?!?!?!?! HOLY SHITBALLS, I NEED TO SHOP.

Originally Posted by AGDee

Some will be that formal. Some will be in cocktail dresses.

I know in the Conventions I've attended in the last 10 years attire has always been "after 5."

Some of the alums, mostly the older ones, looked like they just came from dinner with the Queen.

[IrishLake]

I was like, WTF bump? But now I'm glad it did. I was pretty bitchy when I posted this!

Everything is fine. I still feel like I don't know FSiL super well, but I like her more each time we spend time together. She's still high maintenance, but she realizes how much she spazzes about stuff and is working on relaxing. She even apologized graciously for flipping out about not ordering the dress right away. (I'm even down a dress size due to all the breastfeeding, so.... yeah I'm glad I waited). I've recently gone to 2 bridal showers for her (one her family threw, one my family hosted). Dress crisis was easily solved. I ordered it on March 3rd, and it came in last week. Huh. Imagine that. It looks hideous on me, but I'm ok with that. I need to get my shoes. My husband and son are both measured and fitted for their tuxes and my oldest daughters flower girl dress looks very cute on her.

The only downside now is the COST of everything.
My dress - $130
My shoes - $30
Daughters dress - $80
Daughters shoes - $20
Husbands tux - $100
Sons tux - $60
Bridal shower gifts - $100 total
(Passing on bridal shower #3 and the bachelorette party)
Hotel room for night of wedding - $130

That's $650 not including miscellaneous little costs. I still need a strapless bra. That's not including all the gas money spent driving all over for things. At least it's staggered costs and not all at once. My brother was shocked when I told him how much money we are spending. Things add up quick! I told him we probably can't get them a big wedding gift, we just can't afford it.

Now the drama surrounds my brother's groomsmen. One of them just got shipped to Afghanistan in January and won't be back in time for the wedding. He thought he'd get 2 weeks leave granted to him for June, but no luck. FSiL freaked out. My brother already has his best friend from home, two good friends from college, his 2 future BiLs, my husband, and one friend from C-bus. He's not close to anyone else. He's either going to ask the husband of one of our cousins, or one of his fellow football coaches. He needs to make up his mind quick, wedding is in June! He may have already asked someone, though, I just don't know about it. When FSiL freaked over being down one groomsman, my brother got on her pretty hard. Something along the lines of "Serving our country in a war torn county is more important than being in our wedding." (My brother is former ROTC, he lost his scholarship due to a severe head injury sustained during training at Fort Lewis. He feels robbed that he never got to serve, he planned on being an Army lifer).