What to do?

[AZTheta]

crosscaravan - I'm starting a word document with your posts, that's how much I like what you have to say. Wow. You really nail it, a lot of the time. Are you in my chapter?

I totally agree with everything that everyone else has posted in this thread. +1 to everyone.

OP, it's like Abraham Lincoln said: most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Last night I went to see Happy:The Movie. I highly recommend it to you and to everyone else, for that matter. It confirmed what I already suspected; I'm just prewired for happiness (I have a great happiness set point, got lucky, doesn't take a lot for me to feel happy!). Only about 10% of extrinsic factors account for happiness. The other 90% is all intrinsic.

So, go ahead and focus on the 10% and be miserable. Or not. It's totally up to you. Totally. You're not being held hostage in that sorority. You really aren't.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

crosscaravan - I'm starting a word document with your posts, that's how much I like what you have to say. Wow. You really nail it, a lot of the time. Are you in my chapter?

I totally agree with everything that everyone else has posted in this thread. +1 to everyone.

OP, it's like Abraham Lincoln said: most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Last night I went to see Happy:The Movie. I highly recommend it to you and to everyone else, for that matter. It confirmed what I already suspected; I'm just prewired for happiness (I have a great happiness set point, got lucky, doesn't take a lot for me to feel happy!). Only about 10% of extrinsic factors account for happiness. The other 90% is all intrinsic.

So, go ahead and focus on the 10% and be miserable. Or not. It's totally up to you. Totally. You're not being held hostage in that sorority. You really aren't.

Haven't thought about it before, but this is spot on! Count me in on bringing my own happiness. I'm also a fan of crosscaravan! I nominate her for best new poster.

To the OP, there are so many wonderful things about sorority membership that go beyond the warm and fuzzies. You throw that all away if you keep focusing on your negativity. You first need to accept the fact that your other groups may have wanted you but not enough to give you a bid before the girls in their pledge classes. Your sorority wants you and if you give them a chance, you COULD have the best experience of your life, open up opportunities you never imagined, build leadership skills and become part of a sisterhood. That's a pretty good deal. Try giving it a real chance (without the judgements of "it doesn't feel right. It just feels so forced." because you know that you're busy comparing and thinking what if!)