What to do?

[IrishLake]

I opt for Option D, none of the above. Go read some of the recently bumped threads. Give your group a longer chance and see how it goes. Talk about your concerns to your sorority mentor (if you have one) and the new member educator. And remember - you are going to get out of your experience what you put into it. You still sound bitter that you didn't get #1 or #2. You were not high enough on their bid lists to receive a bid. There is no computer mistake. #3 wanted you though, and that should say something. Find the girls who don't go out and party and attempt to bond with them. If it doesn't get any better before you initiate, then de-pledge. At least then you gave it a fair shot. Keep in mind though that if you do de-pledge and decide to rush as a junior, you will have to go through all of the rounds with the house you dropped from, AND the other groups will know that you pledged and then dropped out. Not to mention your class status will put you at a bigger disadvantage.

[thetalady]

My sister Irish Lake is being very kind and tactful. I don't particularly feel either of those things right now, since this is the 2nd practically identical crappy, whiny story tonight.

Here is the truth that Irish is far too nice to say: If you depledge your sorority, please FORGET about ever being Greek. Do not bother going through rush again next year. You WILL get "the phone call" if you try again. The chances of getting a bid anywhere are incredibly close to zero. Just put that into your thoughts when you make your decision.