Closing the door after the horses bolted

[Optimus Prime]

Originally Posted by shirley1929

I should clarify - I didn't mean a program where you stay with a random stranger (eek). At Bama, you couldn't even have stayed with that friend of yours. You can't stay overnight in the dorms with your very bestest friend in the world if she's in a chapter and you're not.

Well that makes sense because before recruitment you're really not supposed to even be communicating with your very bestest friend if she's in a chapter and you're even thinking about going through recruitment. That's how it is at the university I attended, anyway.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by Optimus Prime

Well that makes sense because before recruitment you're really not supposed to even be communicating with your very bestest friend if she's in a chapter and you're even thinking about going through recruitment. That's how it is at the university I attended, anyway.

Well it's for the PNMs whole senior year of HS - not just before recruitment.
Alabama has a PH Preview Weekend in the spring and that is supposed to suffice for getting to see houses and introduced. The coming down for every football game and staying with your BFF in the house or dorm is not allowed.

[33girl]

As far as venting to the moms, so true. I remember mom & I having a conversation along the lines of "but I thought you hated Kari? You came home complaining about how mean she was to you." "Oh Mom, I was just mad, and anyway that was last week."

The difference is I think I had this conversation when I was 10. By the time I was in HS I wouldn't have dreamed of letting her in on the ins & outs of my friendships. It's nice that kids are more open with their parents nowadays I guess, but the parents have to remember that they are talking to an adolescent, not a peer, and take what is said accordingly.