Her Peeps

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by PEP Guy

You're a sell out, man. You're not a true brotha. As black men, we're supposed to stick together, which you have proven otherwise.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

True dat.

GC is boring as hell these days.

This interaction continues to slay me, sirs.

Originally Posted by PEP Guy

Folks talk about this on the Michael Baisden show all the time.

I actually like the Michael Baisden show, but I'm uncertain why you keep bringing it up?

Originally Posted by PEP Guy

You don't understand the rules of the game. It's either play or be played on.

What an incredibly sad and immature outlook on life. You need Jesus.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I actually like the Michael Baisden show, but I'm uncertain why you keep bringing it up?

It's what brothas listen to.

Come on, sistah. Get with the program.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

This interaction continues to slay me, sirs.

Be quiet when men are talking. Go get me a sammich.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I actually like the Michael Baisden show, but I'm uncertain why you keep bringing it up?

I love the show.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Be quiet when men are talking. Go get me a sammich.

Get your own damn sandwich and, while you're at it, get me one. *hair flip*

I love the show.

I disagree with a lot of Michael Baisden's positions (significantly, his issues with organized religion), but the discussions he generates are great and he has a real, positive impact on communities across the country.

It doesn't hurt that the show cracks me up.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Get your own damn sandwich and, while you're at it, get me one. *hair flip*

There are no rewards for being a....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZeKaHBMKows&ob=av2e

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I disagree with a lot of Michael Baisden's positions (significantly, his issues with organized religion), but the discussions he generates are great and he has a real, positive impact on communities across the country.

It doesn't hurt that the show cracks me up.

I agree. I forgive him for the Jena Six nonsense.

[sigtau305]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I actually like the Michael Baisden show

Baisden is the man.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by sigtau305

Baisden is the man.

Just curious, who is Michael Baisden?

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Just curious, who is Michael Baisden?

He's many things, but I think most people know him from his national radio show.

http://www.michaelbaisden.com/

[PEP Guy]

Originally Posted by agzg

Successful troll is successful.

Ya mama is a troll.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

True dat.

GC is boring as hell these days.

I feel you. People play to much on here.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I actually like the Michael Baisden show, but I'm uncertain why you keep bringing it up?



What an incredibly sad and immature outlook on life. You need Jesus.

I like Michael Baisden too. I bring him up often because he had a show about black women and their attitudes. He had a lot of black men calling in and telling him why they don't fuck with sistahs anymore. And I already have Jesus in my life, which why I understand the rules of the game of pimping. Thank you Jesus.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

So you're going to take your own test?

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

To his credit, it was a fair question--and there has been some legitimate discussion about it. Some women let their families and friends say too much about their romantic relationships.

I feel you, and you're absolutely right. Parents get to involved and give the wrong advice about who their kid wants to have a relationship with. I don't fuck with women who's parents are too involved. They prejudge too much.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

LOL @ "dusty dick Kappa".

Hey dude, I expect these thoughts from you about me as I do from most. My thoughts on “dating” are on a much deeper level than what it is to you, as it is to most. I don’t even like using the term “dating” because “dating" encourages romantic expectations. To me, it’s about as young and silly as a grown woman referring to me, a grown man, as her “boyfriend.” and vice versa.

1. In “dating” (something you don’t seem to get) romantic attraction is often the cornerstone of the relationship. The premise of dating is “I’m attracted to you, therefore let’s get to know each other.” The premise of friendship, on the other hand, is “We’re interested in the same/similar things, let’s enjoy these common interests together”. If romantic attraction forms after developing a friendship, then it's an added bonus. You also need to understand that intimacy without commitment is defrauding, and intimacy without friendship is superficial. With that said, a relationship based solely on physical attraction and romantic feelings (as you see it) will last only as long as the feelings last, which is why you are a lonely, disrespectful man on a message board bashing women.


2. No, I am not gay. I don’t agree with that lifestyle.

Lastly. You’re right, I don’t know much about women, and because you are also a man and not a woman, you don't either. However, unlike you, I do know how to treat a lady. When it comes to women, I see them, and put them on a level you can’t even begin to understand. To me, a woman is so valuable that a man should be willing to pay a lifetime for her...with interest. Her comfort and satisfaction should be the utmost importance to him. Unfortunately, for you, it is not.

I don't know why I even responded to this fool, LOL.

Anyway, get some help...pimp.

I feel you, a lot of people don't fuck with gays, but I don’t mind gay women, though. Bi is always a good thing with them, especially with white women, because they will do the threesome. White women will do it all. They will do what a sistah won’t do. I even urinated on a white woman before. You’ve never heard of a golden shower? If you get a white woman, ask her can you give her a golden shower and watch her grin. Sistahs don’t play that shit, that’s why I don’t fuck with them. See, I could do a threesome all day long. But I always strap up. If I’m at work, and I’m fiendin’ for some ass, on my lunch hour, I get with this one honey I work with. I just remove the bread crumbs, tie a rubber band around, and strap up with the sandwich bags from my lunch. The bad thing is it has to be a quickie or my circulation will get cut off. The problem with you is you’re a doormat, basically. Nice, but a doormat. See, what you need is a white woman. A white woman would appreciate a mutha fucka like you. You can’t handle a sistah, unless you know the game, which is why she’s out fucking around on you when you’re not with her. Nice guys are too blind to see it. I’ve not always been a good guy, but I’ve always been a nice guy. Some of the women I’ve been with have made it hard to be a good guy, and it’s been hard for me to figure out how to navigate that. The solution was instead of being a good guy, I became a kind of prefab nice guy instead. What’s the difference? Well, plenty. Allow me to elaborate.

See, the difference between a good guy and a nice guy is that goodness just is. It’s organic and comes from within. You can’t learn it, buy it, or fake it. You know good peeps when you see them. See, the nice guy is accessorized and put on: his nicety is often a disguise, an overlay for a truly vile personality or a really sensitive soul. Sometimes the nice guy is really a good guy, trying too hard. And the good guy is the nice guy trying to protect himself from being hurt. I admit, they can be hard to spot. Like I said earlier, nice guys are blindly loyal even in the face of adversity, like Red Sox fans or cocker spaniels. See, a nice guy is the standard gentleman: he pays for lunches, pull out chairs. Buys flowers and candy. Writes corny, horny love notes. Walks girls to and from class. That guy is you and used to be me. See, I was respectful, in all the conventional ways. See, your problem is you’re masking insecurity and hoping to distract a woman so she can’t find it. A love puppy is head-over heels in love with the love Keith Sweat, Gerald Levert, Luther Vandross, and Al. B. Sure used to sing about. He is a nice guy gone crazy. Those are the kinds of men women dream about, so says the radio. See, love puppies find themselves eschewing common sense to go above and beyond to find, please and keep a woman. Women prefer love puppies over nice guys, although to most, the nomenclature is interchangeable. The aim, it seems, is always to turn a nice guy into a love puppy, because women think they long for a man who requires nothing but tries his damnedness to give them the world, who is prepared to work as many jobs, buy as many flowers, wash as many dishes, cook as many meals as he has to in order to make his woman happy. See, what you fail to realize, is a woman doesn’t really want a man like that. Because, that guy? Well, he’s not a man. This is why I question your manhood. And most times she is going to turn that love puppy into a dawg. See, nice guys are marks who give until they have nothing left to give anymore. Good guys keep their critical mind front and center and never give too much, to the point where there is an imbalance. You need to know the difference. If you were smart, you would use that niceness for playing the game. Hit me up so I can help you out.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Just curious, who is Michael Baisden?

You don't know who Michael Baisden is? You're one of those clueless white girls.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by PEP Guy

I just remove the bread crumbs, tie a rubber band around, and strap up with the sandwich bags from my lunch. The bad thing is it has to be a quickie or my circulation will get cut off.

Bwahahaha. I HOPE you are joking. If not, you are a bigger idiot than I give you credit for. I'm not even going to touch what white women will do since we all know how you like to lump every woman of a race in one bucket.

[PEP Guy]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Bwahahaha. I HOPE you are joking. If not, you are a bigger idiot than I give you credit for. I'm not even going to touch what white women will do since we all know how you like to lump every woman of a race in one bucket.

What's wrong with that? I'd rather use a sandwich bag than nothing at all.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by PEP Guy

Bi is always a good thing with them, especially with white women, because they will do the threesome.

Misogynistic Troll is Misogynistic. Great "Nice Guy(TM)" comment though.

[cheerfulgreek]

I was reading some of the comments about parents being involved. I disagree, because your parents are your covering until you get married. It's just that they have better insight than you have (if you have parents who care about you). I mean, this might not always be to your liking, but it is always for your own good. This is true no matter what you think of them (provided that you have good parents). Your parents love you, they know you, and they want the best for you. Honestly, when it comes to choosing a mate, it's not brain surgery to figure out why their counsel in this area is invaluable. First of all, they are not in love with your significant other, so they can see him objectively. Second, they know and love you, so they are sensitive to what your needs are -what will work for you, and what will hinder you. So, when your parents speak on the matter of a mate, you need to listen to them instead of being dumb and relying on your own decisions.

I totally agree with PB. It's just that walking in friendship and learning about one another with no intimacy involved affords you the opportunity to learn about the character of a guy without having to make any snap decisions. It's just that once you've walked together for a while and realize that you share a lot on common, you create a bond, and then you'll naturally enter into courtship with the intention of solidifying a commitment. This is why I don't make impulsive decisions on whether a guy is for me upon our initial meeting. Chemistry isn't enough.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I was reading some of the comments about parents being involved. I disagree, because your parents are your covering until you get married. It's just that they have better insight than you have (if you have parents who care about you). I mean, this might not always be to your liking, but it is always for your own good. This is true no matter what you think of them (provided that you have good parents). Your parents love you, they know you, and they want the best for you. Honestly, when it comes to choosing a mate, it's not brain surgery to figure out why their counsel in this area is invaluable. First of all, they are not in love with your significant other, so they can see him objectively. Second, they know and love you, so they are sensitive to what your needs are -what will work for you, and what will hinder you. So, when your parents speak on the matter of a mate, you need to listen to them instead of being dumb and relying on your own decisions.

You do realize that not all parents have the best intentions in terms of their children's mates, right? Just look at the in-law venting thread. Do you think that the husbands of those GC women were "being dumb and relying on their [own] decisions?"

I've seen plenty of controlling fathers try to derail their daughters' relationships so they could be the only man in their lives. I've seen plenty of manipulative women do the same thing. People disown their children for whom they choose to love--for reasons as simple as race, religion, or socioeconomic factors. To say that they should just listen to whatever Mommy and Daddy tells them is naive, to say the least.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I was reading some of the comments about parents being involved. I disagree, because your parents are your covering until you get married. It's just that they have better insight than you have (if you have parents who care about you). I mean, this might not always be to your liking, but it is always for your own good. This is true no matter what you think of them (provided that you have good parents). Your parents love you, they know you, and they want the best for you. Honestly, when it comes to choosing a mate, it's not brain surgery to figure out why their counsel in this area is invaluable. First of all, they are not in love with your significant other, so they can see him objectively. Second, they know and love you, so they are sensitive to what your needs are -what will work for you, and what will hinder you. So, when your parents speak on the matter of a mate, you need to listen to them instead of being dumb and relying on your own decisions.

I had great, wise parents who cared about me and my siblings deeply, and a primary way they showed this was by raising to us make our own decisions. I certainly never considered them as "covering" me until I got married (at age 27). What you describe was not my experience, nor would I want it to have been, nor do I want it to be my experience with my children.

I see what you're trying to say, but I frankly I think it's useless advice, especially on the internet. If this is how it is for you and your parents, great. But so much of what you assume about parents and their relationship with their children can vary widely, even among "good" and "wise" parents.