Rudest PNM You Had to Deal With

[tld221]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

In a different thread, an NPHC sorority member asked why people got so worked up over rudeness. I figured I'd repost my response to that here.

I've never cried/gotten upset over a rude person.

My take on rudeness in recruitment:

If you are really rude enough to act that way toward people you just met, you'll probably be a rude brat once you get a bid and make your NM class and the chapter miserable. Your rudeness is actually helping us to weed you out and saving us your drama. So thanks for being rude!

I hold Sigma in such high esteem that I just feel like a complete brat doesn't deserve her. I'm glad that those who aren't worthy of her show themselves every year with their bratty comments.

/soapbox.

Dear future siggy,

I'd love you to join me in my signature space. I don't know the magenta will work, but maybe something in a blue will work? Let's talk. Thaaaaaanks!

xoxo, tld221

[UGAalum94]

I think part of what makes people cry or get otherwise thrown off their game when this happens during recruitment is that it's so shocking. I think most of us have worked in jobs where the occasional jerk is par for the course; you learn to deal with it; and it's not really that unnerving. But recruitment is typically really different.

A couple of the posters here are UGA people too, and the general rapport of recruitment there is incredibly friendly and kind of gushingly supportive, even with people who you may not be that crazy about and don't expect to see again.

So when you run into one of the tiny number of people who will actually say something intentionally, directly mean, it's a little bit like having cold water thrown on you or getting slapped. You are just stunned. It's probably the shock more than the rudeness that upsets you.

On a different topic, and I may have mentioned this before: I confess that I asked a girl in my rush group when we were both going through what her dad did for a living, but it was because she had lived in a bunch of different places. (Weirdly maybe, I hadn't yet known families who relocated for the mom's career.) My dad was in the army, so I wondered if she was a military brat too. I didn't really think about the implications of the question until I saw her exchange a knowing look with one of her friends. Sometimes, that question is a looking for a marker of social class, and sometimes, you sincerely want to know about the career, I guess.

[KDMafia]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I think part of what makes people cry or get otherwise thrown off their game when this happens during recruitment is that it's so shocking. I think most of us have worked in jobs where the occasional jerk is par for the course; you learn to deal with it; and it's not really that unnerving. But recruitment is typically really different.

So when you run into one of the tiny number of people who will actually say something intentionally, directly mean, it's a little bit like having cold water thrown on you or getting slapped. You are just stunned. It's probably the shock more than the rudeness that upsets you.

I think it also depends on when the rudeness is as well. During open houses, the rude girls don't really bother as many people because the emotional toll of recruitment hasn't hit and your able to brush it off.

The worst is when they are rude later, due to being cut by a chapter they liked or just still having their heart set on one chapter. The worst I saw was a girl who was a legacy that came to our pref party. She had been very sweet the entire week and then at pref night was so rude and dismissive of the sorority ending with stating she was there to make her mom happy but had no interest in us. The girl who preffed her and really liked her throughout the week and was devastated afterwards. She ended up at another chapter, thankfully.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by tld221

Dear future siggy,

I'd love you to join me in my signature space. I don't know the magenta will work, but maybe something in a blue will work? Let's talk. Thaaaaaanks!

xoxo, tld221

YAY.

[HQWest]

One of the MANY problems with spring recruitment is that we would have some girls show up for recruitment that weren't interested really they were just there because. A classic moment was when at the first party on the first day a girl - presumable for shock value - walks up to my big sis and says "Sororities are just buying your friends" To which sis replied "At 25 cents per friend per month till I graduate and then they are friends for life? Best D**n deal I ever made!"
Needless to say she dropped out...

[oliviaosentoski]

This story isn't really rude but it is one of those curve balls that you get during recruitment. We had a girl come through recruitment that thought that the women in the sororities weren't allowed to eat all weekend. So when she came to our house she forced feed one of our sisters a pretzel.

For me this is would be one of the rudeness things a pnm could do during recruitment. Last fall during our preference we had a girl bring coffee with her and drank it thought out our preference. Needless to say all of our sisters found that extremely rude.

[33girl]

LOL, I'm either picturing the Family Guy where Peter stuffs the watermelon in Lois's mouth or this:

[victoriana]

Originally Posted by oliviaosentoski

This story isn't really rude but it is one of those curve balls that you get during recruitment. We had a girl come through recruitment that thought that the women in the sororities weren't allowed to eat all weekend. So when she came to our house she forced feed one of our sisters a pretzel.

For me this is would be one of the rudeness things a pnm could do during recruitment. Last fall during our preference we had a girl bring coffee with her and drank it thought out our preference. Needless to say all of our sisters found that extremely rude.

Oh my god. This would be my face if I was watching that happen:

[Lightning Bug!]

PNM (then rushee) and I were sitting on our chapter house's porch, talking. PNM spots a girl she knows walking down the street and calls to her. They proceed to have a rather long catching-up conversation, which she cuts short just about the time the round wrapped up. I think I got a "sorry, haven't seen her all summer" or something like that, but it was rather startling.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by HQWest

One of the MANY problems with spring recruitment is that we would have some girls show up for recruitment that weren't interested really they were just there because. A classic moment was when at the first party on the first day a girl - presumable for shock value - walks up to my big sis and says "Sororities are just buying your friends" To which sis replied "At 25 cents per friend per month till I graduate and then they are friends for life? Best D**n deal I ever made!"
Needless to say she dropped out...

AMAZING!

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by HQWest

One of the MANY problems with spring recruitment is that we would have some girls show up for recruitment that weren't interested really they were just there because. A classic moment was when at the first party on the first day a girl - presumable for shock value - walks up to my big sis and says "Sororities are just buying your friends" To which sis replied "At 25 cents per friend per month till I graduate and then they are friends for life? Best D**n deal I ever made!"
Needless to say she dropped out...

Originally Posted by 33girl

LOL, I'm either picturing the Family Guy where Peter stuffs the watermelon in Lois's mouth or this: