Rudest PNM You Had to Deal With

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

Mini hijack, I did not learn this from sorority life but from working in retail. Im sure people who have any sort of job where they deal with people knows you cannot do anything but smile and be nice when people don't treat you like a human being. So many times I've wanted tell a person how I really feel when they are being rude, but you can't without mega consequences. All you can do is hope that person learns, whether it be from a sorority/job/life how to treat others. Ugh.

It depends on the context and overall environment. Based on my GLO/job/life experiences, there are GLO/job/life situations where you can and should do more than smile when people are rude. You don't have to cuss them out (that works too in some contexts) but you don't have to just smile and/or let it upset you.

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

It depends on the context and overall environment. Based on my GLO/job/life experiences, there are GLO/job/life situations where you can and should do more than smile when people are rude. You don't have to cuss them out (that works too in some contexts) but you don't have to just smile and/or let it upset you.

You do when you work where I do in retail, unfortunately. They only thing I can do is hope that when someone treats them like that (if they are younger and have not had a retail/service job) they learn how wrong they were and you never treat people that way. I know I do my best in all situations to treat others how I would like to be treated if I was working their job, and I learned that from being treated like shit at mine.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

You do when you work where I do in retail, unfortunately.

*sideeye*

[YesNoMaybe]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

It depends on the context and overall environment. Based on my GLO/job/life experiences, there are GLO/job/life situations where you can and should do more than smile when people are rude. You don't have to cuss them out (that works too in some contexts) but you don't have to just smile and/or let it upset you.

The worst for our chapter I think was the picture incident that happened to my friend, because it was so in-your-face, but I had a girl that would answer with one word or shrug to almost everything I tried to talk to her about (and they were open ended questions) and after her response would look around the room but not at me. After five awkward minutes of one-way conversation, I said nicely "I'm sorry if I'm perceiving this wrong, but it seems like you are a little bored talking about my chapter. We don't have to talk about it but we do have to talk for the rest of the party" and smiled at her. She was a legacy at a different chapter, and apologized but said she was only interested in that chapter. We ended up having a decent conversation after that, although I found her impolite still for being so closed.

For some reason, I have had multiple PNMs say things like "If a chapter you don't like ranks you really high, it will take a spot of one you do like". They seem to be confused at the mutual selection process, and are convinced that if they are unwillingly back at our chapter, we knocked out their first pick that in reality didn't invite them back.