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MysticCat · #1 07-19-2011, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Living away from mom and dad (whether you're 30 minutes away or 3,000 miles) is SO important.

My mom's rule of thumb was that you should go to college close enough that you can get home when you really need to, but far enough way that you can't come home whenever you want to.

Munchkin03 · #2 07-19-2011, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

My mom's rule of thumb was that you should go to college close enough that you can get home when you really need to, but far enough way that you can't come home whenever you want to.

Now it's so easy to get most places (maybe not cheap, but easy) that distance really isn't an issue anymore. I never felt like I couldn't get home if I *needed* to, and I rarely ever wanted to do so.

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

See, I probably would have gone somewhere far away if I had the kind of parents who were going to be all in my business. My parents were the "we call once every 2 weeks or so to make sure you're alive" type. They were also the "we don't care if you stay local for school, but you need to leave the nest" type.

My parents were definitely going to be all in my business, so I got as far away as I could (literally). Even now, I think my father would have a heart attack if he didn't hear from me for 2 weeks.

MysticCat · #3 07-19-2011, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Now it's so easy to get most places (maybe not cheap, but easy) that distance really isn't an issue anymore. I never felt like I couldn't get home if I *needed* to, and I rarely ever wanted to do so.

I feel old now. Thanks.

Munchkin03 · #4 07-20-2011, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

I feel old now. Thanks.

It's okay.

I was only born a couple of years after the airlines were deregulated, so I do not know of this world where it once cost thousands of dollars to fly to SF from NYC!

TriDeltaSallie · #5 07-20-2011, 05:04 PM

What about safety issues? Would you let your daughter attend a school in an area that is especially prone to crime?

DrPhil · #6 07-20-2011, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

What about safety issues? Would you let your daughter attend a school in an area that is especially prone to crime?

Definitely.

I assume you mean "high crime rate."

Many colleges and universities are in the heart of cities. There is no massive gate to separate the campus environment from the city environment. That's a good thing. My children are raised to understand that most crimes are not random but are instead based on people's routine activities. Be smart, whether you are a college student or not, and you reduce the likelihood of person and property victimization.

Munchkin03 · #7 07-20-2011, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Definitely.

I assume you mean "high crime rate."

Many colleges and universities are in the heart of cities. There is no massive gate to separate the campus environment from the city environment. That's a good thing. My children are raised to understand that most crimes are not random but are instead based on people's routine activities. Be smart, whether you are a college student or not, and you reduce the likelihood of person and property victimization.

Also...how bad are most college towns really? Even those in the core of a city usually have excellent police/security coverage. None of my friends at Columbia or Penn got robbed/mugged on campus, and those schools are in the "roughest" parts of their respective cities.

thetaj · #8 07-20-2011, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

What about safety issues? Would you let your daughter attend a school in an area that is especially prone to crime?

I think I would, if she really wanted to. My only objection stems from my sister's experience as a transfer student to UMiami. She of course didn't get on-campus housing and ended up renting a small house in Coral Gables with three grad studends. She was 20, they were around 24, they went out all night and left her alone in the house listening to gunshots all night. She transferred back to her original school and was in love with it

But my dad has maaaajor beef with Miami (the city) now, and I do understand that.

dekeguy · #9 07-20-2011, 06:14 PM

When my sister was an undergrad and living in her first apartment she kept her 20 bore shotgun under her bed and her .22 S&W in her purse along with her carry permit. She was a first class shot and believed in the concept that when there is one to be buried and one to be tried, "Not guilty, your Honor" I asked her why a .22 cal? She replied that a .22LR had more penetrating power than anything shy of a .45. I learned early not to piss off my sister.
So much for questionable neighborhoods.

KSUViolet06 · #10 07-20-2011, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

What about safety issues? Would you let your daughter attend a school in an area that is especially prone to crime?

Yep. I still would.

You miss out on a lot if you avoid larger cities and schools in such cities for fear of OMGTEHCRIMEYOUGONNAGETRAPED.

TSteven · #11 07-20-2011, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by AOIIalum

That's for sure. If it was MY choice, my very hypothetical daughter wouldn't even step foot to visit dUKe, UNC, Louisville, LSU or Florida.

I think I may nominate you for Mother of the Year! Obvious, you only have the best interest of your hypothetical daughter at heart.

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Oh the good ole days for both of those!

October 1st will be here before you know it.