Non-liberal hippie gay guy hoping to join a fraternity...

[MysticCat]

Seriously, I'd suggest you stop posting so much personal information here. People in the chapters you're interested in might read what you've posted -- it's quite possible -- and you've given more than enough information for them to identify you when you go through rush. So all your questions about what you should or shouldn't tell them could be moot; if they've read it here, they already know and may have already formed opinions about you before they've ever laid eyes on you.


Beyond that, and for what it's worth, my advice:

1) Stop trying to pick a fraternity based on reputations, family connections, etc.
2) Go through rush and actually meet the guys in different chapters.
3) Don't try to act like someone you're not. Be yourself and be honest with yourself about where you would fit in and who you would like to call your brothers.
4) Hope that the chapter you think you fit with best likes you for who you are and offers you a bid.

[Shrapnel360]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Seriously, I'd suggest you stop posting so much personal information here. People in the chapters you're interested in might read what you've posted -- it's quite possible -- and you've given more than enough information for them to identify you when you go through rush. So all your questions about what you should or shouldn't tell them could be moot; if they've read it here, they already know and may have already formed opinions about you before they've ever laid eyes on you.


Beyond that, and for what it's worth, my advice:

1) Stop trying to pick a fraternity based on reputations, family connections, etc.
2) Go through rush and actually meet the guys in different chapters.
3) Don't try to act like someone you're not. Be yourself and be honest with yourself about where you would fit in and who you would like to call your brothers.
4) Hope that the chapter you think you fit with best likes you for who you are and offers you a bid.

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it. So, is name-dropping a no-no?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Shrapnel360

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it. So, is name-dropping a no-no?

No, you can say "my grandfather was a DKE at Yale." That makes you a legacy in some fraternities, and that's fine. I would definitely mention it if that's one of the fraternities you end up rushing. Don't think it guarantees you membership though, or that you'll even like that fraternity.

The no-no is how much OTHER personal info you have already posted on here.