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Originally Posted by Titchou
I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this. You've missed the most important thing - tell Student Affairs and the Greek Life Office. This fraternity needs to be investigated. There are proper university regulations to be followed.
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No, the most important thing is to take care of herself, and thankfully she sought professional help. Whether she reports this is her choice. I think she should, but would understand if she didn't want to.
OP, I am sorry that this happened to you, and sorry that your sisters failed to give you the support that you need. It's a shame your new member educator and some members of your chapter seemed insensitive, but most people are not equipped to handle such situations. There are a lot of pervasive misconceptions about sexual assault; people who haven't been personally touched by it may not understand. They're probably not huge meanies. I'm glad you are seeing a therapist.
Sorority-wise, because you were initiated, the sorority you are in is the only chance you have to be Greek (assuming you are in an NPC sorority---which I gather from your terminology---and want the NPC experience). If you really want to try to have a good experience, I would encourage you to reach out to any allies you have in the chapter. Explain what happened, if it would make you feel better. Your big? Anyone from your new member class? Regardless of the reason you feel disconnected, you do have the ability (and responsibility) to reach out. AzTheta's idea of reaching out to an advisor could also be a good idea.
Also, remember that your chapter will have a new new member class each year you stick around. These are not the only women that will ever be in your chapter. The next NM class might help you start over, but you have to reach out!
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