In-law venting thread

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

It would take one conversation to stop all this horrendous behaviour. Stop treating my wife badly or you will have no relationship with me. Period. The same goes for women who let their families treat their husbands poorly.

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That was exactly what my husband said to his mother when she told him to divorce me. And he followed up on it. He gave her the silent treatment for most of the summer. He ignored her emails. He let her calls go to voicemail and then didn't return them. If she'd tried snail mail, we would have written "return to sender" on the letter and sent it back unopened. If she'd tried showing up on our doorstep, we would be "not home" (we have plenty of practice with that as we have an infestation of Jehovah's Witnesses here).

We have re-established a relationship with them, but we are keeping them very much at arm's length.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

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That was exactly what my husband said to his mother when she told him to divorce me. And he followed up on it. He gave her the silent treatment for most of the summer. He ignored her emails. He let her calls go to voicemail and then didn't return them. If she'd tried snail mail, we would have written "return to sender" on the letter and sent it back unopened. If she'd tried showing up on our doorstep, we would be "not home" (we have plenty of practice with that as we have an infestation of Jehovah's Witnesses here).

We have re-established a relationship with them, but we are keeping them very much at arm's length.

I tell my own mother this when she complains about my brother in law. I ask her if she wants to have a relationship with her grandchildren. Some people just have to control everything. My sister just isn't confrontational enough to tell my family off, though I do it for her anytime I'm around.

P.S. Good for your husband. His mother deserved it after that remark!

[SWTXBelle]

My mil died before we married - I did get to meet her, and in fact my husband's last words to her were "I'm going to marry Belle if she will have me". I'm very sad that she didn't get to see her grandsons - the one thing she really wanted was grandchildren. So I don't have evil mil stories.

HOWEVER - I can vent about my bil. 13 years older than my husband and a "confirmed bachelor",he really could not care any less about his nephews. He refuses to put our number under ICE on his phone, make a will, or do anything to enable us to possibly take care of him (he lives in Chicago - we are in Texas). He said he wanted to be buried by his parents - the two plots were left to my husband. We told him we'd be willing to sell him a plot if we could have enough money to buy another in the same cemetery.He refused, saying "Mom and Dad wanted me to be buried by them." Well, then it's a shame they didn't leave a plot to you. I'm figuring we'll have him cremated, and bury him with my husband.

When we had our great place in TN he was happy to come and play lord of the manor - now that we are in reduced circumstances he's not interested. It's very sad - we are his only relatives, and the boys are his only descendants - but he's more interested in researching his ancestors than building a relationship with his nephews. It's saddest for him.