Why do we tell PNMs to clean up their Facebook?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

As for the friending issue, you can either be the PNM who rejects every sorority women's fb friendship request and be judged for that and miss out on potentially getting to know sorority women before recruitment (which we stress is a good thing) or you can accept those requests and just keep your page clean - which is good common sense.

I thought it was against contact rules for sorority women at a school having rush in August to friend rushees now.

Also, IMO, you shouldn't friend ANYONE you don't know/haven't met personally just because their profile says they go to your college. As I said before, they can be creepy stalkers. If you go to a school with deferred rush, go out and MEET sorority women, and THEN friend them/accept their FRs.

[MaggieXi]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I thought it was against contact rules for sorority women at a school having rush in August to friend rushees now.

Also, IMO, you shouldn't friend ANYONE you don't know/haven't met personally just because their profile says they go to your college. As I said before, they can be creepy stalkers. If you go to a school with deferred rush, go out and MEET sorority women, and THEN friend them/accept their FRs.

Every school has different contact rules and different campus cultures. If you have deferred recruitment you can't believe that sorority members and PNMs who happen to be in the same club, same class, or even hang out at the same fraternity house for a semester aren't going to friend each other, even if they bearly know each other.

But if some PNMs are scared of being fb friends with a sorority women after meeting them -even briefly, and rejects the friendship request, it's could be a mental note for the sorority member. And especially for competitive campuses who need to make cuts for any reason possible. You can't say that this absolutely would not come into consideration. I'm not saying they have to go out an "friend" every single sorority woman, but they need to make socially smart decisions.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

But if some PNMs are scared of being fb friends with a sorority women after meeting them -even briefly, and rejects the friendship request, it's could be a mental note for the sorority member.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think on most campuses interacting with a PNM via facebook would be considered "dirty rushing".

And as far as someone tagging a picture and you not getting to it first -- in the day of smartphones, that's not really an excuse. The majority of people I know have internet on their phone and can set up notifications for when a picture is tagged.

[MaggieXi]

Originally Posted by FleurGirl

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think on most campuses interacting with a PNM via facebook would be considered "dirty rushing".

And as far as someone tagging a picture and you not getting to it first -- in the day of smartphones, that's not really an excuse. The majority of people I know have internet on their phone and can set up notifications for when a picture is tagged.

How is it dirty rushing? For example: If you have deferred recruitment in the spring, and a freshman girl has an orientation leader in August who happens to also be an XYZ and they friend each other. Orientation ends, they still see each other from time to time on campus and are friendly. (This could apply to R.A.s or a lab partner, etc).

Again, it depends on the school's no contact rules. The chapter I work with, this scenario is not considered dirty rushing and is quite the norm. Most PNMs go into recruitment being fb friends with many sorority women in many different sororities. No contact does not go into effect until registration for recruitment opens. Prior to that, you can have social media connections.

[Mevara]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

How is it dirty rushing? For example: If you have deferred recruitment in the spring, and a freshman girl has an orientation leader in August who happens to also be an XYZ and they friend each other. Orientation ends, they still see each other from time to time on campus and are friendly. (This could apply to R.A.s or a lab partner, etc).

Again, it depends on the school's no contact rules. The chapter I work with, this scenario is not considered dirty rushing and is quite the norm. Most PNMs go into recruitment being fb friends with many sorority women in many different sororities. No contact does not go into effect until registration for recruitment opens. Prior to that, you can have social media connections.

I can see how this is different in deferred recruitment since they are technically not a PNM until registration is open. It just sounds like dirty rushing since at most campuses recruitment is in the fall and these connections are made over the summer (when registration is open) and not in the first semester(when registration is closed for deferred).

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

Every school has different contact rules and different campus cultures. If you have deferred recruitment you can't believe that sorority members and PNMs who happen to be in the same club, same class, or even hang out at the same fraternity house for a semester aren't going to friend each other, even if they bearly know each other.

But if some PNMs are scared of being fb friends with a sorority women after meeting them -even briefly, and rejects the friendship request, it's could be a mental note for the sorority member. And especially for competitive campuses who need to make cuts for any reason possible. You can't say that this absolutely would not come into consideration. I'm not saying they have to go out an "friend" every single sorority woman, but they need to make socially smart decisions.

If you have deferred and meet the people in person, friend away. That's the whole point of deferred rush.

I'm talking about if Katie Kappa from Bama got on her FB now, in May, and sent a friend request to Franny Freshman (whom she has never met, has no connections to and the only reason she has her name is because Franny posted on the college's FB page asking about sororities).

Not only is this dirty rushing, Franny should be cautious because IRL Katie Kappa could be a 50 year old creepy hacker dude.