Why do we tell PNMs to clean up their Facebook?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I think the problem is that FB may not be very representative. For example, I think every FB picture of me in the last year involves me drinking. Does that mean I do nothing but drink? No, it means that I am so busy that I hardly ever go out, so all the picture-taking occasions in my life are weddings, big parties, etc.

If you do one stupid thing, and a friend snaps a photo and tags you, I don't think that should disqualify you from membership.

Also, there are things that may be okay to the collegians that would have the 85-year-old rush advisor clutching her pearls.

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I think the problem is that FB may not be very representative. For example, I think every FB picture of me in the last year involves me drinking. Does that mean I do nothing but drink? No, it means that I am so busy that I hardly ever go out, so all the picture-taking occasions in my life are weddings, big parties, etc.

I was putting together a slideshow for a charitable organization this month and I noticed this phenomenon. Nearly every photo that was contributed (and there were over 80) was of the members drinking. We looked like horrible lushes! It took a major effort to find pictures without alcohol in them to try to balance out the presentation so it wasn't embarrassing

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I think the problem is that FB may not be very representative. For example, I think every FB picture of me in the last year involves me drinking. Does that mean I do nothing but drink? No, it means that I am so busy that I hardly ever go out, so all the picture-taking occasions in my life are weddings, big parties, etc.

If you do one stupid thing, and a friend snaps a photo and tags you, I don't think that should disqualify you from membership.

Also, there are things that may be okay to the collegians that would have the 85-year-old rush advisor clutching her pearls.

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[naraht]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Also, there are things that may be okay to the collegians that would have the 85-year-old rush advisor clutching her pearls.

My guess is that if a rush advisor has reached 85, she's seen things that would make most of the current sisters blush.

[carnation]

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[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by naraht

My guess is that if a rush advisor has reached 85, she's seen things that would make most of the current sisters blush.

indeed she has!

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

I'm probably in the minority, but I agree with you. Facebook can be valuable to both PNMs and to sorority members.

Ditto.

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I think the problem is that FB may not be very representative. For example, I think every FB picture of me in the last year involves me drinking. Does that mean I do nothing but drink? No, it means that I am so busy that I hardly ever go out, so all the picture-taking occasions in my life are weddings, big parties, etc.

If you do one stupid thing, and a friend snaps a photo and tags you, I don't think that should disqualify you from membership.

Also, there are things that may be okay to the collegians that would have the 85-year-old rush advisor clutching her pearls.

You're also over 21. Most PNMs are not.

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Swerving, but how is this different from asking someone to "put his/her best foot forward" for a job interview?

Because you are only an employee of your company for 8 hours a day. You are a sorority member 24/7.

Perhaps we'd have fewer issues with members posting stupid things on Facebook, allowing themselves to have pics taken of them while holding drinks when they are under 21, etc. if we only gave bids to young women who were smart enough to keep their social media posts clean in the first place. It's called good judgment. As the parent of an 11th grader and a 9th grader, I can say that very few of the young people's Facebook pages that I see have anything inappropriate on them. Those are the young people I'd want to be joining our GLOs.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Because you are only an employee of your company for 8 hours a day. You are a sorority member 24/7.

Not exactly. Even though it's 9:30 PM, I'm still *technically* an employee of my company.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Not exactly. Even though it's 9:30 PM, I'm still *technically* an employee of my company.

If you choose to drink yourself silly whenever you're not at work, as long as you don't show up drunk, they can't fire you for it. You can also be on your best behavior at work but do what you want when you're home (unless they have random drug screens). It's not the same. I'd rather know that a young woman is going to be a risk management issue before we give her a bid.

[Splash]

Originally Posted by AGDee

If you choose to drink yourself silly whenever you're not at work, as long as you don't show up drunk, they can't fire you for it. You can also be on your best behavior at work but do what you want when you're home (unless they have random drug screens). It's not the same. I'd rather know that a young woman is going to be a risk management issue before we give her a bid.

When I'm at work, some of my more familiar clients have come up to me and said "weren't you at so-and-so yesterday?" It has never been anything scandalous, strictly locational, but I can imagine if I was being a drunken smutbag, it would reflect poorly on my company.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Perhaps we'd have fewer issues with members posting stupid things on Facebook, allowing themselves to have pics taken of them while holding drinks when they are under 21, etc. if we only gave bids to young women who were smart enough to keep their social media posts clean in the first place. It's called good judgment. As the parent of an 11th grader and a 9th grader, I can say that very few of the young people's Facebook pages that I see have anything inappropriate on them. Those are the young people I'd want to be joining our GLOs.

I hate to be a cynic, but they're the minority.

You can keep your FB clean as a whistle and then your dumbass friend tags one unflattering pic of you, and if you don't get to it before someone else sees it, you're toast. (And no, disallowing your friends from tagging you is NOT an option. That's pretty much like telling your friends to their faces that they're dumbasses. Not many 18 year olds will do that.)

Chapters dealing with hypercompetitive rushes are looking for ANY reason to cut the zillion girls they need to cut. Not in a malicious way, but in a "holy crap we have to get this done before we can sleep" way. A picture with a solo cup/the wrong guy/hair in rollers can be enough to do that.