Personal ad gripe. Who should pay? Him or her? He's not worthy if he doesn't pay?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by AGDee

That doesn't bother me a bit because I have certain preferences that I stick to myself. I'd rather know that I shouldn't waste my time with that person. For them it might be weight, for me it might be age.

It's different when it's about race or something though than age or weight even. But that said, I'm realizing that it doesn't work that way for me so much. Unfortunately I think I'm going to be one of those people who identifies as an orientation that will always require an explanation unless around similar people.

/sapio, right now at least. Work in progress.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

It's different when it's about race or something though than age or weight even. But that said, I'm realizing that it doesn't work that way for me so much. Unfortunately I think I'm going to be one of those people who identifies as an orientation that will always require an explanation unless around similar people.

/sapio, right now at least. Work in progress.

Yeah, I'd have to say that racial preferences don't bother me. I think most people have some sort of preference but it's not politically correct, especially if you're part of a minority group, to admit it. I just wondered because I've read articles where (mostly Black) women will complain about Black men being vocal about their preference of White or Asian women.

At least they're being honest, so you don't waste your time sending a message to a man who's not attracted to you?

I'm just realizing that the more experience I get, I know what I want and more especially what I DO NOT want, so I can't really hate on someone for expressing it.

[Tre1911]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

QFP.

The stereotype that a man's heart is linked to his stomach has nothing to do with your rhetorical questions. You and your dates will work out the payment system. There are women who don't care whether a man pays. At the same time, there are men who get outraged and feel as though women are shrinking their scrotum if we pay or even offer to pay. Figure it out.

/ignoring that this may be troll

Hahahaha thanks Nupe. I'm feeling you on this.

Originally Posted by Drolefille

You should always pay for the first date as compensation for the accidental sex. You never know where that penis will end up.

I'm still down with going dutch and I wouldn't just hit it the first night.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Seriously? This is so dumb. I think the world has somehow gotten us to believe that "the way to a guy's heart is through his body". That's a lie. But the bigger lie is buried in the center of that statement because it implies that we women have nothing else to offer except our bodies.

I'm old fashioned. As we date, I believe in taking care of one another, but on a first date? Uh, uh...he'd better pay for me or there won't be a 2nd date. I don't expect him to wine and dine me at an expensive restaurant on the first date, but I expect him to behave like a gentleman.

Why is that dumb? No offense, but if some girl told me I better pay for her or no 2nd date, I'd call some ol' bullshit on that. I'd just move on to another girl if that were the case. There are more of yall than there are of us. Plenty of fish in the sea to worry about the demands of just one.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Tre1911

Hahahaha thanks Nupe. I'm feeling you on this.

^^ Perp

[Tre1911]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

^^ Perp

Why do yall keep thinking I'm a perp. I am really a Nupe. For real. Where are the rest of the bruhs?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Tre1911

Why do yall keep thinking I'm a perp. I am really a Nupe. For real. Where are the rest of the bruhs?

Really bad perp.

[Tre1911]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Really bad perp.

Are you a Nupe? I didn't think so.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Tre1911

Are you a Nupe? I didn't think so.

Hey, look we have something in common.

Don't be a fool, wrap your tool.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Tre1911

Why do yall keep thinking I'm a perp. I am really a Nupe. For real. Where are the rest of the bruhs?

You and I are both Nupes. Kool.

[Tre1911]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You and I are both Nupes. Kool.

Why were you calling me a perp, Phi? Where did you pledge?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Tre1911

Why were you calling me a perp, Phi? Where did you pledge?

The same place you pledged.