True Life: My story through Rush

[RedLipstick]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

It sounds like you went into rush with the attitude of "what a sorority can do for ME". In this case, you want them to be an instant support group. That's a totally unrealistic expectation, and I can tell you that even if you had gotten a bid to your #1 choice, there is a good chance you would have been disappointed. Sororities are NOT insta-bonds like they show in the movies (and on MTV ). It would still be up to you to make the kind of connections to girls who could eventually support you. In truth, you don't need a sorority to do that, but you do need to learn how to make those connections. If you can't make those connections with the people you already have in your life, a sorority isn't going to do it for you.

Next rush try going in with the attitude of "what can *I* do for the sorority", ESPECIALLY if you choose to participate in the colonization recruitment. Also, make sure you are physically (and mentally) up to the task. Sororities are work and commitments that take a lot of energy and time. If this is something you can't give with your condition, then maybe you'll have to pass on this experience.

Meanwhile if you really are having this hard of time dealing with your medical condition, maybe you should go look for an actual support group. They will generally be lead by people who know how to help you. If you need further help, go to your school's counseling center. They are there to help you as well.

Hm, I don't think I explained myself fully in that respect. Of course I wasn't expecting for Help 101 from my sisters as a whole. But I am also aware of the great friendships that result from a sorority and was more of looking for friends, in general, who were more like me. If we became bffs and shared everything, then great! If not, then ok.

Yes, I did kind of hat a "what can a sorority do for me" attitude, but that's not the only attitude I had. Even though I explained the benefits I was looking for in my post, there were still many things I was looking to contribute. Like positions in the house. For example, organizing and coming up with fresh ideas is something that I love doing, so if I was in a house, I would love helping out with the social calendar. I'm also a big proponent of many of the philanthropies, so my involvement would focus a lot on that too. I'm also a great friend, in general. You get out of things what you give in, which is something I understand. So, all that I was looking to get out of it, I was looking to put into it too!

[BraveMaroon]

Aside from the whole sorority/rush issue, it sounds like you've been through some pretty major life events this year.

I would strongly, strongly recommend that you seek out your school's counseling center and find someone that you can talk to during your recovery process.

Illness and surgery, regardless of the outcome, can leave you feeling very shaken up, emotionally. If you aren't getting the support you need from your friends who know your situation, you need to find other avenues of getting what you need.

The feel that I get from your original post is that you are confused, disappointed, scared and angry. You may be projecting some of that outwardly, and while you have a right to feel all those things, you need to find a way of effectively dealing with them so that they don't infect your interactions with others.

Good luck!

[RedLipstick]

Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

Aside from the whole sorority/rush issue, it sounds like you've been through some pretty major life events this year.

I would strongly, strongly recommend that you seek out your school's counseling center and find someone that you can talk to during your recovery process.

Illness and surgery, regardless of the outcome, can leave you feeling very shaken up, emotionally. If you aren't getting the support you need from your friends who know your situation, you need to find other avenues of getting what you need.

The feel that I get from your original post is that you are confused, disappointed, scared and angry. You may be projecting some of that outwardly, and while you have a right to feel all those things, you need to find a way of effectively dealing with them so that they don't infect your interactions with others.

Good luck!

I am recovered both emotionally and physically now. Which is probably why I've been able to come forward with my story. I will keep in mind that my attitude could have been/is being displayed outwardly when I didn't mean it to! Thank you!