Schools where you absolutely positively need recs

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by ellebud

USC is an extremely competitive recruitment. That being said, my daughter rushed with three recs: one to a house that she wasn't interested in, one to a house that wasn't a fit, and one to a house that she preffed. Outcome? She pledged a house where she didn't have a rec. Not having a rec isn't fatal at USC, but I'd certainly advise that you should. UCLA is far less stressful. But if you can get recs, do it. (And do not pay attention to the recruitment advice that UCLA gives that you can wear cutoffs and flipflops to recruitment. Even if you can carry the look off, it shows a lack of respect.)

I'm going to try to be polite about this, but please don't show up and give bad advice. You do NOT know which chapters had recs for your daughter. Also, your daughter's outcome has nothing to do with PNM's who may be reading this thread and getting ready to go through recruitment. We've discussed this time and time again: women attending USC should obtain recs to every chapter.

[ellebud]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I'm going to try to be polite about this, but please don't show up and give bad advice. You do NOT know which chapters had recs for your daughter. Also, your daughter's outcome has nothing to do with PNM's who may be reading this thread and getting ready to go through recruitment. We've discussed this time and time again: women attending USC should obtain recs to every chapter.

Now I'm going to be polite about this: I absolutely DO know where my daughter had recs. Why? Because in my part of town, west Los Angeles, most of us either didn't belong to sororities or they belonged to AEPhi or SDT.
Sorority membership for girls from Orange County is different and yes, more widespread. We don't go to Neimans and ask around. It is different. My daughter, who was told that a friend of a friend was writing a rec for her in the house that she joined, absolutely didn't have a rec. She checked. An alum wrote her one on Pref night.

As I said, yes, you should have recs. But, as my daughter saw last year a good number of girls didn't have recs. They still got bids. Might they have had a different/better outcome? Possibly. But Los Angeles is a different animal.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by ellebud

An alum wrote her one on Pref night.

Uh, someone wrote her a rec? Then guess what? SHE HAD A REC!!!

In any case, unless you were privy to the membership selection of every chapter on campus, you do not really know who had what on your daughter or any of the other PNM's with which you were acquainted.