Are you @#$%ing kidding me??

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

That's fair--it was the blanket statement that threw me off. I'm not unfamiliar with the phenomenon of the parent who wraps her identity around a child. One woman in particular, a former co-worker, has revolved her entire life around her three-year old daughter. Her daughter's come before her livelihood (no matter how much you love your child, you really need to be able to keep a roof over his/her head) and her marriage (which really should come first).

Hi-jack:

I've had people seriously debate me over the "you need to place your relationship with your spouse over your kids" point.

That's my belief (happy parents with a solid relationship lead to well-adjusted kids), but there are people who seriously think you said "I want to BBQ my children with a side of corn and feed them to my husband" when you say "marriage = first."

(Obviously, yes, if the other parent is an axe murderer, the kid's health and safety needs to come first. But I'm talking about in normal situations.)