Rejected Candidate and Prominent Family Member at Institution

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Perhaps you just weren't the right fit.

For example, while I am extremely close to the brothers in my fraternity, I also have several close friends that are not in my fraternity. They chill with me and are cool to hang out with, but the relationship just doesn't have certain important elements that are necessary for brotherhood. In particular, it's the parts about having a similar mindset, holding values consistent with my fraternity's ritual, and just simply being on the same wavelength.

Brotherhood is quite different from friendship, even though a lot of elements are shared. I'm not exactly sure how to quantify it, but your gut feeling will give a very definite answer. I personally joined my fraternity since my gut feeling strongly said "yes" even though I was originally extremely uncomfortable about the idea and remained that way until a week after I was pinned.

So, basically, tune down the smug attitude (whether or not you intend it, it's a strong vibe in your posts) and start looking at other fraternities. Good luck!