How bad is it to miss your first chapter meeting?

[MissNoelle]

UGH. I'm a sophomore! I don't know why I put freshman. I went to a private out of state university my first year, so a lot of the credits didn't transfer back to my state uni when I came back. So credits-wise I have to catch up and I'm freshman status, but I'm a second year college student. I've been overloading on credits though so that by next year I have enough to be a junior. But anywaaaaays.

I know it sounds flaky and like I don't want to commit. That's not true. I really do want to get involved on campus and be in greek life. I just REALLY don't want to go today. I can't even explain how much I don't want to. Maybe I'm not as into all this sorority stuff as I thought, or maybe it just takes a while to get into it. I think I'm just going to make myself go...I might as well. I don't want to regret it later. :/

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by MissNoelle

I know it sounds flaky and like I don't want to commit. That's not true. I really do want to get involved on campus and be in greek life. I just REALLY don't want to go today. I can't even explain how much I don't want to. Maybe I'm not as into all this sorority stuff as I thought, or maybe it just takes a while to get into it. I think I'm just going to make myself go...I might as well. I don't want to regret it later. :/

I don't understand.

This is going to sound harsh, but hopefully you are mature enough to appreciate it:

If you are considering not attending your pledging ceremony and first meeting becasue you DO NOT WANT TO (not because you have an important event that can't be changed), you probably need to re-think joining.

This is not going to be the last time you're going to be asked to attend things when you maybe had other plans, something else you want to do, or just plain don't feel like it.

Recruitment, pledging ceremonies, Initiation, etc. As a sorority member, you're going to be expected to attend. There's no such thing as "I just don't want to." It is also expected that you have a valid excuse for not attending things.

Seriously consider your ability to commit to attending sorority events. If you find that you won't be willing to do so, you may need to decline now and avoid wasting this chapter's time.

[princessamy]

Originally Posted by MissNoelle

UGH. I'm a sophomore! I don't know why I put freshman. I went to a private out of state university my first year, so a lot of the credits didn't transfer back to my state uni when I came back. So credits-wise I have to catch up and I'm freshman status, but I'm a second year college student. I've been overloading on credits though so that by next year I have enough to be a junior. But anywaaaaays.

I know it sounds flaky and like I don't want to commit. That's not true. I really do want to get involved on campus and be in greek life. I just REALLY don't want to go today. I can't even explain how much I don't want to. Maybe I'm not as into all this sorority stuff as I thought, or maybe it just takes a while to get into it. I think I'm just going to make myself go...I might as well. I don't want to regret it later. :/

the sad part is some girl probably got cut during recruitment who would die to be in your spot.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by MissNoelle

I just REALLY don't want to go today. I can't even explain how much I don't want to.

Try to explain. I'm curious. Clearly, tonight's super-cool plans don't have anything to do with why you don't want to go to your pledging ceremony. So, what is it?

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by MissNoelle

UGH. I'm a sophomore! I don't know why I put freshman. I went to a private out of state university my first year, so a lot of the credits didn't transfer back to my state uni when I came back. So credits-wise I have to catch up and I'm freshman status, but I'm a second year college student. I've been overloading on credits though so that by next year I have enough to be a junior. But anywaaaaays.

I know it sounds flaky and like I don't want to commit. That's not true. I really do want to get involved on campus and be in greek life. I just REALLY don't want to go today. I can't even explain how much I don't want to. Maybe I'm not as into all this sorority stuff as I thought, or maybe it just takes a while to get into it. I think I'm just going to make myself go...I might as well. I don't want to regret it later. :/

QFP...

I'm with PrincessAmy & KSUViolet06.

ETA: and AOEForme as well.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by MissNoelle

UGH. I'm a sophomore! I don't know why I put freshman. I went to a private out of state university my first year, so a lot of the credits didn't transfer back to my state uni when I came back. So credits-wise I have to catch up and I'm freshman status, but I'm a second year college student. I've been overloading on credits though so that by next year I have enough to be a junior. But anywaaaaays.

I know it sounds flaky and like I don't want to commit. That's not true. I really do want to get involved on campus and be in greek life. I just REALLY don't want to go today. I can't even explain how much I don't want to. Maybe I'm not as into all this sorority stuff as I thought, or maybe it just takes a while to get into it. I think I'm just going to make myself go...I might as well. I don't want to regret it later. :/

Seriously, if you're having to force yourself to go at this early point you just need to quit now.

Also, what's happening with your bio sister you rushed with?

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Seriously, if you're having to force yourself to go at this early point you just need to quit now.

Yes, this. Please just quit.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by MissNoelle

UGH. I'm a sophomore! I don't know why I put freshman. I went to a private out of state university my first year, so a lot of the credits didn't transfer back to my state uni when I came back. So credits-wise I have to catch up and I'm freshman status, but I'm a second year college student. I've been overloading on credits though so that by next year I have enough to be a junior. But anywaaaaays.

I know it sounds flaky and like I don't want to commit. That's not true. I really do want to get involved on campus and be in greek life. I just REALLY don't want to go today. I can't even explain how much I don't want to. Maybe I'm not as into all this sorority stuff as I thought, or maybe it just takes a while to get into it. I think I'm just going to make myself go...I might as well. I don't want to regret it later. :/

Two things here.
1) Why is it that you don't want to go? If it's a situation similar to what Drolefille described, this is a life lesson. In the real world you will HAVE to attend meetings and such where you WILL have to interact with others. This is a good time to learn how to. When I first got to college I had a hard time with social situations and would dread them...and usually latch on to someone more outgoing as a front. But joining a sorority quickly taught me how to get past that. I'm now able to work a room with ease and though part of it is confidence, most of the credit is due to my time as a collegian. If it's because you're lazy or would rather hang out with your friends...quit. I would say stay because you need to learn now (not when you're fired from your first job because you just didn't feel like showing up sometimes) to get over yourself, but I don't think it's appropriate to use a chapter of girls that actually give a shit to do that.
2) All that being said, no matter what your excuse is this is life. As someone else said your list of DON'T WANT TOs will get longer every year, and you'll have to do those things anyway. That's part of being a big kid. Whether you stick with it or not you need to force yourself to start behaving like an adult so that you get into the habit before you graduate and fall on your face in the real world.

For the record, it IS flaky and it does sound like you don't want to commit. Whatever you decide, if you have this little interest in the sorority come initiation, don't hurt those girls that do care by becoming deadweight.