New sorority coming to campus

[KSUViolet06]

$5 says she comes back to all this helpful advice and says "OMG you guys are like soooo mean!!!111"

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by PSLAM

The group though had our hearts set on one sorority (of the final three) and we were so sure we would get it. Instead....we got another one. Phi sigma sigma.


I know...it's really superficial at this point. I don't like the letters. I don't like how they're planning on initiating us in a year. I'll be a junior by then. What's the point? A lot of the girls feel the same way, since a lot of them are juniors NOW (and we have one 1st semester senior). Is there a way we can talk to nationals to expedite this? I want to have the sorority experience. Having it as a second semester sophomore isn't so bad....I really want to get a lot out of this. Bigs. Littles. Etc. It's asking for a lot....

And at the same time, I'm stupid and say,"I don't like the letters." We can't be called phi sig, there's a phi sig on campus, but are there any other cute nicknames? Like PSS? Or something besdies PSS? I like the handsigns and the colors are pretty cool. I also see that they're coming to campus very organized, which I guess compensates for the slightly smaller alumna base. I like my sisters but I want to do some recruiting because we are so small. And I'd like to do it informally in the fall to start at least. This is driving me insane because the nationals want the interest group to do work to help set things up but not give us letters. We've been dying for this.


I've missed formal rush twice, and now that some of my sophomore friends are getting into some really good sororities, I'm wondering if maybe I missed a lot. I'm having a lot of what if's. And I know there's NOTHING I can do to change that.

Can someone at least console me here? Tell me if there's something we can do to negotiate with nationals a bit without offending them? Something to make me enthusiastic about greek life and phi sigma sigma again?


(Also, the name PSLAm, my username, came from someone's username on some other forum saying some good things about a particular chapter of phi sigma sigma, if it's actually offensive, I apologize).

NOTE:
I started to respond to this thread right after this was posted and would have been the first to respond after the QFP but since Im not NPC I knew you guys would handle it What I typed below was my knee-jerk reaction and after reading the responses, I know I was not the only person to feel this way. So here is what I wrote:

I usually stay out of these type of posts but:

1. Why do you want to be in a sorority? Is it just to wear letters or are you looking for a LIFETIME commitment?
2. Based on what you say, you've gotten a 3rd chance to join while there are young women who wish they could be where you are.
3. Phi Sigma Sigma existed before you (or I for that matter). They were founded in 1913. They obviously have programming that works for them and if you don't like the organization, what they stand for, the philanthropies they support, then WHY JOIN? Do Phi Sig a favor and drop if you don't want to be there and give your spot to someone who does and will appreciate it.
Being in a fraternity or sorority is not a right, it's a privilege and you've been lucky enough to be offered membership while you are still in under grad.
People like you really irritate the he** out of me. You're the reason why we need to be more selective about who we allow into our organizations. You sound like you just want to join to wear the t-shirt.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

NOTE:
I started to respond to this thread right after this was posted and would have been the first to respond after the QFP but since Im not NPC I knew you guys would handle it What I typed below was my knee-jerk reaction and after reading the responses, I know I was not the only person to feel this way. So here is what I wrote:

I usually stay out of these type of posts but:

1. Why do you want to be in a sorority? Is it just to wear letters or are you looking for a LIFETIME commitment?
2. Based on what you say, you've gotten a 3rd chance to join while there are young women who wish they could be where you are.
3. Phi Sigma Sigma existed before you (or I for that matter). They were founded in 1913. They obviously have programming that works for them and if you don't like the organization, what they stand for, the philanthropies they support, then WHY JOIN? Do Phi Sig a favor and drop if you don't want to be there and give your spot to someone who does and will appreciate it.
Being in a fraternity or sorority is not a right, it's a privilege and you've been lucky enough to be offered membership while you are still in under grad.
People like you really irritate the he** out of me. You're the reason why we need to be more selective about who we allow into our organizations. You sound like you just want to join to wear the t-shirt.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

NOTE:
I started to respond to this thread right after this was posted and would have been the first to respond after the QFP but since Im not NPC I knew you guys would handle it

I think this is one of those threads that transcends conferences. We're not talking about something like bad recruitment etiquette here.

[psy]

Honest question here: Is it really so bad to join because of the allure of letters/ritual? Not join JUST because of that, of course, but for it to be part of the attraction of Greek life? When I decided to go through recruitment, I did it because I was attracted to the idea of sisterhood and close friendships but also because I liked the idea of being connected to other people across generations and geography by this shared, secret ritual that only members of the organization know. So, I guess that I did join, in part, for the letters, handsigns, secret ritual, etc. Of course, I wouldn't have joined if I didn't feel the connection to my now-sisters that I did, either, and I did end up joining an org where I didn't care for the colors much but LOVED the people. I was also an officer, so I was definitely involved.

OP, you are getting the chance to join a sisterhood that is almost a century old and tens (hundreds?) of thousands of members strong, with a deep history and tradition. Why not embrace that for the amazing opportunity it is? Assuming you like your sisters well enough, why not enjoy your time together now, even if you won't get initiated until next year?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by psy

Honest question here: Is it really so bad to join because of the allure of letters/ritual? Not join JUST because of that, of course, but for it to be part of the attraction of Greek life?

I think it's obvious the OP is interested in a lettered sweatshirt.